I recently overheard a woman talking about her 12 year-old son. She confessed to laying out his clothes each morning, packing his school bag with books and food and then she said, “Because if I don’t, he’ll forget.” This shocked me and here is why…

My own children, since age of five have done all things that a lot of mother’s still do. Why? Because I am their parent – their guide and leader, not their nanny – and as such I have a responsibility to first nurture, then educate, then, as soon as they are ready, hand over responsibility for their wellbeing to them. Children who take part in their own life – pick up their dirty linen, contribute to dinner and tidying their home – go on to become confident, well-rounded, respectful kids; and children who don’t… well they’re ones you might moan about to your friends when you witness them disrespecting both other human beings and environment.

Begin by directing your children to take on small tasks. Ask them to put their clothes in a washing basket or hang a towel up. Ask them to bring their plates to sink and wash them after dinner and tell them they are helping you and that you really appreciate their help. Give them a hug for their help and they might do even more! As they get better increase tasks. Ask them to cut grass for you, iron clothes or cook dinner. And if you think that is too much responsibility then think about this…

A Maasai tribe leader appointed a seven year-old girl as person in charge of two-thirds of his village’s wealth. The wealth was not held in money, but in three camels. The girl was responsible for ensuring that these camels stayed safe and well fed and she knew if she failed to do this properly then villagers may end up starving. Maybe we could trust our children with a vacuum or a mop or a duster once or twice a week!

Help your children to find purpose in life. Find more time for your ‘self’ so you can to define your own purpose more strongly.

Now you may think this was end of our eating for day, wrong. After dinner was complete, while grownups were cleaning up and then taking a rest - just their bodies, talking was non-stop - we kids - weather permitting - were outside playing. A few hours later - not kidding - it was time for famous turkey sandwiches and any other left over you might have a hankering for.

Of course as they say “All Good Things Must Come To An End”, which meant it was time to leave.

After what seemed like an eternity of good-byes we piled into our cars and headed for home. Little sis & I always fell asleep on way, thinking about our wonderful day, and dreaming about next year.

Today our family is scattered across country and sadly we are missing some - although not in our hearts - but when possible we still get together.

But on those November 27th’s when we’re not able to we still keep our “Nana’s” spirit alive with lots of great food, a tremendous amount of talking, and good fun.

So to all of you, no matter what your traditions maybe, enjoy day, food, but most of all your loved ones. “Happy Thanksgiving” From Savvy Home Decorating

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