The Interrupted Self

Written by Sam Vaknin

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Next followrepparttar "functional instructions" ("How to" type of commands): how to see, how to place visuals in context, how to hear, how to collate and correlate sensory input and so on. Yet, these commands should not be confused withrepparttar 126332 "real thing",repparttar 126333 "final product". "How-to-see" is NOT "seeing". Seeing is a much more complex, multilayered, interactive and versatile "activity" thanrepparttar 126334 simple act of light penetration and its conveyance torepparttar 126335 brain.

Thus - separated by another compiler which generates meanings (a "dictionary") - we reachrepparttar 126336 realm of "meta-instructions". This is a gigantic classificatory (taxonomic) system. It contains and applies rules of symmetry (left vs. right), physics (light vs. dark, colours), social codes (face recognition, behaviour) and synergetic or correlated activity ("seeing", "music", etc.).

Design principles would yieldrepparttar 126337 application ofrepparttar 126338 following principles:

1. Areas of specialization (dedicated to hearing, reading, smelling, etc.)

2. Redundancy (unutilized over capacity)

3. Holography and Fractalness (replication of same mechanisms, sets of instructions and some critical content in various locations inrepparttar 126339 brain).

4. Interchangeability - Higher functions can replace damaged lower ones (seeing can replace damaged proprioception, for instance).

4. Two types of processes:

Rational - discrete, atomistic, syllogistic, theory-constructing, falsifying

Emotional - continuous, fractal, holographic

By "fractal and holographic", we mean:

1. That each part containsrepparttar 126340 total information aboutrepparttar 126341 whole

2. That each unit or part contain a "connector" to all others with sufficient information in such a connector to reconstructrepparttar 126342 other units if lost or unavailable.

Sam Vaknin is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He is a columnist for Central Europe Review, United Press International (UPI) and eBookWeb and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory, Suite101 and

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Taming the Beast: Pathological Narcissism and the Quality of Life

Written by Sam Vaknin

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The answer is: discipline, decisiveness, clear targets, conditioning, justice. The narcissist isrepparttar product of unjust, capricious and cruel treatment. He isrepparttar 126331 finished product off a production line of self-recrimination, guilt and fear. He needs to takerepparttar 126332 antidote to counterrepparttar 126333 narcissistic poison. Unfortunately, there is no drug which can ameliorate pathological narcissism.

Confronting one's parents about one's childhood is a good idea ifrepparttar 126334 narcissist feels that he can take it and cope with new and painful truths. Butrepparttar 126335 narcissist must be careful. He is playing with fire. Still, if he feels confident that he can withstand anything revealed to him in such a confrontation, it is a good and wise move inrepparttar 126336 right direction.

My advice torepparttar 126337 narcissist would then be: dedicate a lot of time to rehearsing this critical encounter and define well what is it exactly that you want to achieve. Do not turn this reunion into a monodrama, group therapy, or trial. Get some answers and get atrepparttar 126338 truth. Don't try to prove anything, to vindicate, to take revenge, to winrepparttar 126339 argument, or to exculpate. Talk to them, heart to heart, as you would with yourself. Do not try to sound professional, mature, intelligent, knowledgeable and distanced. There is no "problem to solve" just a condition to adjust yourself to.

More generally, try to take life and yourself much less seriously. Being immersed in one's self and in one's mental health condition is neverrepparttar 126340 recipe to full functionality, let alone happiness. The world is an absurd place. It is indeed a theatre to be enjoyed. It is full of colours and smells and sounds to be treasured and cherished. It is varied and it accommodates and tolerates everyone and everything, even narcissists.

You,repparttar 126341 narcissist, should try to seerepparttar 126342 positive aspects of your disorder. In Chinese,repparttar 126343 ideogram for "crisis" includes a part that stands for "opportunity". Why don't you transformrepparttar 126344 curse that is your life into a blessing? Why don't you tellrepparttar 126345 world your story, teach people in your condition and their victims how to avoidrepparttar 126346 pitfalls, how to cope withrepparttar 126347 damage? Why don't you do all this in a more institutionalised manner? For instance, you can start a discussion group or put up a Web site onrepparttar 126348 internet. You can establish a "narcissists anonymous" in some community shelter. You can open a correspondence network, a help centre for men in your condition, for women abused by narcissists repparttar 126349 possibilities are endless. And it will instil in you a regained sense of self-worth, give you a purpose, endow you with self-confidence and reassurance. It is only by helping others that we help ourselves. This is, of course, a suggestion not a prescription. But it demonstratesrepparttar 126350 ways in which you can derive power from adversity.

It is easy forrepparttar 126351 narcissist to think about Pathological Narcissism asrepparttar 126352 source of all that is evil and wrong in his life. Narcissism is a catchphrase, a conceptual scapegoat, an evil seed. It conveniently encapsulatesrepparttar 126353 predicament ofrepparttar 126354 narcissist. It introduces logic and causal relations into his baffled, tumultuous world. But this is a trap.

The human psyche is too complex andrepparttar 126355 brain too plastic to be captured by a single, all-encompassing label, however all-pervasiverepparttar 126356 disorder is. The road to self-help and self-betterment passes through numerous junctions and stations. Except for pathological narcissism, there are many other elements inrepparttar 126357 complex dynamics that isrepparttar 126358 soul ofrepparttar 126359 narcissist. The narcissist should take responsibility for his life and not relegate it to some hitherto rather obscure psychodynamic concept. This isrepparttar 126360 first and most important step towards healing.

Sam Vaknin is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He is a columnist for Central Europe Review, United Press International (UPI) and eBookWeb and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory, Suite101 and

Visit Sam's Web site at

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