They each drink from others water dish—looking at each other as if smiling from ear to ear at how they could “take over” others territory.

We have two cats, which prior to this were members of household, quite ignored by dogs. Our visitors also have a resident cat, which is also ignored by dogs. But no, you get two Alphas together and poor cats turn into “leadership skills”. The cats win every time, but you could never tell that to two alphas.

The whole day was spent in ALPHA ARGUMENT with those two, while Cadman and Prince had a most enjoyable day chasing each other or catching balls. But two Alphas spent day “on prowl”. Puffing out their chests and proving their position as ALPHA.

No blood was shed and no wounds were inflicted. But both of them spent their day in having to prove who they were and how they were better than each other. Last night they all slept hard and sound. I guess spending day proving who you are wore them down.

What about other two? They slept curled up in a king size booty bag together, happily, peacefully and most content.

We got up this morning and have found Alphas had not figured it out and in past four hours have already worked themselves up into a battled frenzy---the other two have eaten their oatmeal and gone about playing with each other in joy.

Hmmm, is there a lesson here? Not that everyone should be a follower because we all need a “leader”---but dang, does everyone have to spend every waking moment of day trying to prove their ALPHA ROLE?

Find your place in what it is that you do. Perform your position to best of your ability and let all those “ALPHAS” feel heat and burden to be on top of chain.

It was in watching these four boys interact yesterday that it became clear. The Alphas are so worried about “losing their power” that they never realized joy in life around them

* Developing an emphatic attitude means listening, really listening, to what our neighbors, friends, customers, co-workers, and employees are saying. And it means trying to feel as they feel. It’s like song says, “Walk a mile in my shoes.”

To help you get into their frame of mind, imagine yourself in their limited experience and highly dependent situation. This will enormously increase your satisfaction and enjoyment of living and, at same time, make you much more attractive to others as they recognize your sincere attempts to understand them and help them with meaningful solutions.

We all need strong egos to cope successfully with our world, but we need empathy, too. We must get into other person's shoes and see world from where he is standing.

Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.