The Guide to Changing Your Name after Marriage

Written by Rachel Greenberg

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5. Passport You will need to mail in a certified copy of your marriage license along with an application torepparttar appropriate passport center. You can obtain copies of this application from your local post office. If you are not renewingrepparttar 122027 passport (name change only), there should be no charge. You will getrepparttar 122028 same passport back, with a stamp inrepparttar 122029 back with your new name. If you are also renewingrepparttar 122030 passport, then there will be a fee, but you will get a new passport with your new name on it.

6. Local government offices In addition to notifyingrepparttar 122031 state and federal governments (which you have done in steps #2 and #3), you should call your local town or county office to notify them of your name change. Since their systems do not always get data fromrepparttar 122032 regional and national systems, it is best to make sure you have everything covered.

7. Employer Be sure to tell your employer of your name change, since it is important that your benefits and taxes are reported properly. Some employers will changerepparttar 122033 name with no documentation, but others will need to seerepparttar 122034 certified copy ofrepparttar 122035 marriage license.

8. Business documents If you own your own business (like I do), then you need to make sure that all business documents and correspondence gets updated with your new name. This includes business bank accounts, credit cards, letterheads, email addresses, etc.

9. Bills and other statements With most utilities, like cable, electricity, phone, etc., you can either change your name online with no documentation required, or make a quick phone call torepparttar 122036 customer service department.

If you feel like this list is a bit overwhelming, then just make sure you get throughrepparttar 122037 first three steps. They requirerepparttar 122038 most time investment, so get them out ofrepparttar 122039 way first. After that, just pace yourself, and you’ll getrepparttar 122040 rest done with ease.

Rachel Greenberg has a background in business and finance, and she received her MBA from Duke University in 1999. She writes fun and informative pieces for her website, which she created with her husband Lee. The website provides advice and recommendations for families on various products and services for their homes, lives, and businesses.

Do You Want To Know How Monogamy Came To Be?

Written by Joseph T Farkasdi

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There are four types of marital arrangements (only one that is civilly legal in America): polyandry, polygamy, monogamy, and polyamory. Polyandry is a marriage arrangement between a wife and two or more husbands. Polygamy is a marriage arrangement between a husband and two or more wives. Monogamy is a marriage arrangement between one husband and one wife. Polyamory is a marriage arrangement between two or more husbands and/or two or more wives. The Torah makes no distinction on which type of legal marriage arrangement is more preferable thanrepparttar others. Instead, it only encourages that through marriagerepparttar 122026 struggles of relationship be dealt with, and thatrepparttar 122027 expression of love be realized. Just as it is realized throughrepparttar 122028 marital struggles between G-d andrepparttar 122029 People of Yisrael. "Now you are to love YHWH your G-d with all your heart, with all your being, with all your substance!" (D’varim 6.5). We do this by faithfully fulfillingrepparttar 122030 obligations of this community marriage relationship with G-d. So it must be in our human marriage relationshipsrepparttar 122031 Torah teaches us.

Monogamy is not threatened by society allowing citizensrepparttar 122032 legal right to choose other types of marriage arrangements, and to be held accountable for these marriages. For those who idealize monogamy asrepparttar 122033 way to go,repparttar 122034 simple bottom-line fact-of-reality is that there is only one threat torepparttar 122035 success and survival of monogamous relationships. This real threat comes from withinrepparttar 122036 homes ofrepparttar 122037 couples that choose a monogamous marriage arrangement, and this threat is not keepingrepparttar 122038 vows made when getting married and not working together to mutually meet each other's needs. The threat of infidelity is not basingrepparttar 122039 marriage on clearly defined obligations to begin with. Banningrepparttar 122040 legal right to form other types of marriage arrangements will not change this. And, it will not prevent people from forming polygamous, polyandrous, and polyamorous relationships - regardless whether they are legally sanctioned by society or not.

The issue inrepparttar 122041 Hebrew Bible is about getting married, not about what marriage form is "right." Its focus is on fulfillingrepparttar 122042 obligations that come with marriage, whether there is love betweenrepparttar 122043 married partners or not. When maintained in this manner,repparttar 122044 relationship is in kedusha, a state of holiness. And, this benefitsrepparttar 122045 community, by providing a strong family-oriented foundation to build from. How can a marriage relationship – whether it be polyandry, polygamy, monogamy, or polyamory – be less of a struggle and more of a love relationship? The first step is to keeprepparttar 122046 marital obligations made between each other when committingrepparttar 122047 act of marriage. Verbally remember and edifyrepparttar 122048 words of this marital agreement often - if possible, on a weekly basis. Sit down together and talk it over.

The next step, which is actuallyrepparttar 122049 very first step and must always remainrepparttar 122050 more important step throughoutrepparttar 122051 marriage is understanding that love is not an object, and thusrepparttar 122052 degree of love one has for another cannot be controlled. But, we do haverepparttar 122053 power within us to control how we will relate to to each other in our relationships. And, we haverepparttar 122054 power to decide whether we will be fidelitous or not. In other words, by defining togetherrepparttar 122055 obligations ofrepparttar 122056 marriage, by living by them throughoutrepparttar 122057 marriage (being conscious of these obligations on a daily basis) and, through this marriage relationship, by elevatingrepparttar 122058 emotional, sexual, and spiritual needs of our partners-in-marriage. Complete honesty between each other, recognition ofrepparttar 122059 need for individual self-responsibility, and partner encouragement (not coercion) is a must. Fulfill this and this marriage, whatever its type, is a marriage maintained in kedusha/holiness, according torepparttar 122060 teachings ofrepparttar 122061 Hebrew Bible.

Footnote: Just for historical authenticity torepparttar 122062 statements made in these * asterisked paragraphs above,repparttar 122063 Damascus Document ofrepparttar 122064 Intertestimal period is a product of a specific extremist community sect of Judaism, and is not reflective of Jewish lifestyle in that time period as a whole. In factrepparttar 122065 majority of Jewish communities would continue to engage in polygamist marriage relationships well intorepparttar 122066 Common Era, and even withinrepparttar 122067 Ashkenazic communities this was so. Monogamy was accepted and justified asrepparttar 122068 ideal by modern Jews only because ofrepparttar 122069 Christian presence around these Jewish communities, meaning Jews conformed torepparttar 122070 practices of their neighbors to avoid persecution over this issue. It is throughrepparttar 122071 extremist Jewish document ofrepparttar 122072 Yachad sect that defines monogamous marriages andrepparttar 122073 monogamous approach to marriages withinrepparttar 122074 Greco-Roman world ofrepparttar 122075 time that Christianity would come to idealize monogamy asrepparttar 122076 ideal marriage relationship style. Evenrepparttar 122077 Irish, who wererepparttar 122078 first culture to embrace Christianity outside ofrepparttar 122079 Greco-Roman world, continued to engage in rather promiscious relationship styles - styles that included group sexual relationships and marriages. It would not be untilrepparttar 122080 arrival ofrepparttar 122081 "White" people into Europe and their subsequent embracement of Christianity that monogamy would be institutionalized asrepparttar 122082 only correct form of marriage. Some estimates have it that monogamy finally took root about a good thousand years afterrepparttar 122083 Damascus Document had been written. And, still today, not all societies are convinced that it really isrepparttar 122084 most moral form of forming relationships.

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