The Gift of Listening

Written by Lynn Cutts


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3. Set up a ground rule that nobody gets to be wrong. Don't judgerepparttar other person. Just accept for now.

4. Byrepparttar 122748 same token, don't try to fix things, or solve problems, unless you're asked to. Often all someone needs is a place to talk things out so they can discover their own solutions. Giverepparttar 122749 other personrepparttar 122750 respect of believing that they are resourceful and able to resolve things on their own.

5. Don't interrupt. Wait untilrepparttar 122751 other person is finished talking before you jump in. Let there be natural gaps inrepparttar 122752 conversation. You don't need to fill every second with talk.

6. Maintain eye contact, but don't stare.

7. Be encouraging. Letrepparttar 122753 other person know you're really listening. Repeat key words, say "uh-huh", nod in agreement.

8. Acknowledgerepparttar 122754 other person's feelings and point of view. Try phrases such as "What I’m hearing is . . ." or "I’m getting that . . ." This also helps to eliminate misunderstandings. 9. Finally, pay attention to body language and energy. Sit with an open, receptive posture. Angle your body slightly towardsrepparttar 122755 other person, or lean in a bit. Do not cross your arms across your chest defensively. In addition, notice howrepparttar 122756 other person is sitting. Be aware ofrepparttar 122757 cadence of their words andrepparttar 122758 energy behind them.

Following those nine guidelines will drastically improve your listening skills. Which will drastically improve communication. Which will drastically improve your relationships. And that's a Valentine's gift that will keep on giving - both torepparttar 122759 other person and to you.

NOTE: You are welcome to use this article online in electronic newsletters and e-zines as long as it remains complete and unaltered (includingrepparttar 122760 "aboutrepparttar 122761 author" info). If use of this article is desired in print, you must first contact Lynn Cutts at Lynn@ManageYourMuse.com.

Copyright 2005 Lynn Cutts

Chocolate-loving Life Coach Lynn Cutts’ mission is to change the world for the better, one person at a time. At www.ManageYourMuse.com, she shares free tips, articles, games and newsletters to help you realize your dreams. Lynn offers one-on-one coaching, group coaching and self-guided programs to help you create your own boundless life. Lynn is certified by the Coaches Training Institute, and is a member of the International Coaches Federation.


We´re trying to..............

Written by graham and julie


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Trying really means a state between no I don’t want to do it and full commitment. You and I both know that if you fully commit to something then 99 times out of 100 you succeed. The time you don’t succeed is when you don’t want to . But rather than facerepparttar aggravation from others you say I’ll try. Which basically means I will not give it my all. I will do what I think is necessary in order for others to think that I have given it a good shot. I will try.

Do you remember when you were child and your grandmother said you were very trying. In other words you were a pain inrepparttar 122747 butt. You were a nuisance.

Well it’srepparttar 122748 same. When you decide that you will try to do something you are really a nuisance to yourself and others becauserepparttar 122749 chance of success is negligible. You, at best, are going to waste a great deal of time and energy doing something you don’t really believe in and is destined for failure. Or possibly marginal success.

Whenever you enter a new challenge withrepparttar 122750 thought of trying in your mind you are really doing yourself no favours. You are really showingrepparttar 122751 world that you are a non achiever.

If deep down, in those hidden dreams you carry, you want to be an achiever then do whatever is necessary in order to succeed. When you carry out a task say to yourself, “No one can do this without me”, and we promise you will succeed.

It’s not a case of we are trying to achieve something here but We are achieving our goals here.

Good Luck

Graham and Julie www.desktop-meditation.com



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