The First Impression is a Lasting ImpressionWritten by Linda Reeves
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formal. 4. The first date should be short and informal, about 2 hours. If after 10 minutes your are cringing in your seat and realize this is not one, you can cut it short and move on, however if you like them and it is going well, you can always extend date. 5. Do not discuss or bad mouth past partners, talk about your interests, your job, hobbies, etc. 6. Limit alcohol or plan a date where alcohol is not available. 7. Plan your outing at a public venue so as not to intimidate or create an uncomfortable atmoshere. 8. Thank your friend for a wonderful time (regardless) and DO NOT say "I'll give you a call" if you do not intend to do so. If meeting did not produce what you expected, be honest and tell them. Do not give someone false hope of a second date.
Enter this meeting with idea that you have a new friend, and plan and execute time based on that premise, if romance does not bloom, you still have a friend that you enjoyed talking to. Be conscientious and thoughtful, someday you could be on other side of that coin and surely you would appreciate honesty as well. Have fun, be open to any possibility and rejection, it is all part of cycle of life, enjoy ride.
Dove is a 47 year old advice columnist who writes for www.CupidsBlackbook.com . She lives in the American Midwest.
Summertime and New RomanceWritten by Linda Reeves
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for protection. I AM NOT condoning sex with strangers or one night stands, but they happen and everyone, men and women should and must be prepared. Before you fall into that heated passion, get to know this person, do not be afraid to ask questions about STD's, have you been tested?, are you currently infected or on any meds, this is your life we are talking about, are you willing in some cases to let someone else have control over outcome and possibly length or quality of your life? Pull your head out of sand and take control. Never have unprotected sex with someone you do not know. Better yet, if you don't know or doubt credibility, stop dead in your tracks, pull your pants up and walk away. Remember when it comes to Aids, you are also sleeping with everyone they have slept with in last 5 yrs, that is a disgusting thought.....ewwwww! A small blister or sore on ones mouth could be herpes, although treatable, still not pleasant. Gawd, how embarrasing would that be to have to tell your date you have genital herpes.....watch how quickly they back away from you and word spreads. And then there is HIV...the epedimic, we do not hear much about it these days, but do not be fooled, it still exists and although someone may tell you they are not infected and they may not be, they can still be a carrier of virus and spread it to you and anyone else you come in contact with before you even know you have it. There are many forms of STD's in our world and our lives, be aware of them, symptoms, cures or lack thereof and possibility of your exposure to them. If you do not know much about them, please visit "Center for Disease Control"s website (WWW.cdc.com) and become educated on subject, arm yourself with knowledge, precaution and protection. Enjoy your summer, have time of your life for rest of your life, letting no one change course without your permission. Be safe, be informed, be careful and love with no fear knowing that you are educated and prepared for anything that crosses your path.
Dove is a 47 year old advice columnist who writes for www.CupidsBlackbook.com . She lives in the American Midwest