The Eternal Lure Of Gambling

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD

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A successful businessman wins a quarter of a million dollars and it is nice: a bonus, a chance to splurge on new toys,repparttar opportunity to retire outstanding debts, or expand their company with a welcome infusion of capital.

A working-class-stiff wins a quarter of a million dollars and it is truly life-changing. A janitor, a gardener, a fast food worker, a guard - with a windfall like that, they can turn their back onrepparttar 141171 roach-infested slum apartment and move to a better neighborhood or buy a small house and a new car. They can quit their hated job, help their families, participate inrepparttar 141172 good life they have only previously experienced as outsiders, looking in.

The problem is that it is non-sustainable. Winning what seems like an enormous amount of money seldom leads to rational investment: education, skill upgrades, saving for future college costs or business opportunities. Moving from nothing to something, in an instant, is not an event likely to produce rational planning. For those whose monetary and emotional needs have never been truly met, immediate gratification isrepparttar 141173 direction of choice. A lifetime of denial demands a certain degree of self-indulgence whenrepparttar 141174 means for it become miraculously available.

Is it any wonder that a large percentage of lottery winners file bankruptcy within five years of their win? The moves,repparttar 141175 changes,repparttar 141176 life enhancements that substantial wins provide are ephemeral.

Inrepparttar 141177 short run, they provide an exciting exit from a black tunnel. Inrepparttar 141178 long run, such a win turns negative - becauserepparttar 141179 dream has become a reality, even if only for a brief moment, returning to prior levels of existence becomes an even more painful form of imprisonment.

The need to recapture that dream, and perhaps maintain it this time if a mega-million prize can be snatched, keepsrepparttar 141180 gambling industry thriving andrepparttar 141181 promises of dream fulfillment entice us all, most especiallyrepparttar 141182 poor, into one more venture, one more ticket, one more chance.

Virginia Bola is a licensed clinical psychologist with deep interests in Social Psychology and politics. She has performed therapeutic services for more than 20 years and has studied the effects of cultural forces and employment on the individual. The author of an interactive workbook, The Wolf at the Door: An Unemployment Survival Manual, and a monthly ezine, The Worker's Edge, she can be reached at

How To Have Sex On The First Date

Written by John Alexander

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Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: - Sitting with her inner thigh exposed. - Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse. - She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth. - You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch.

The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you verbalize anything sexual, it killsrepparttar mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.

Instead, mention an innocent excuse forrepparttar 140808 two of you to go to your place. (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best ofrepparttar 140809 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art... I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on")

Sincerepparttar 140810 two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together, it avoids triggeringrepparttar 140811 alarm bells in her mind that scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!"

Oncerepparttar 140812 two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you can setrepparttar 140813 scene forrepparttar 140814 seduction.

It can take several hours forrepparttar 140815 woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.

Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on from there.

Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date.


John Alexander is author of 7 Step Seduction System that takes you from saying " rel="nofollow"hello" to a new woman... to sharing orgasms in bed with her... in just one evening!

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