The Curse of Success Geniuses

Written by Jason Katzenback

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I think of my oldest daughter. She is eight and already is very good at playingrepparttar piano… like my wife. She's a musical genius. The piano keys do exactly what she wants them to do. She's a genius in playingrepparttar 141978 piano; but not more then a few weeks ago she asked me…

“What doesrepparttar 141979 inside of a piano look like?”

She knew exactly what keys to press to makerepparttar 141980 piano do what she wanted yet she had no idea howrepparttar 141981 piano maderepparttar 141982 noise.

It would be as wise to trust my yellow lab Titus to repair my piano then to leave it to my friend's daughter. Although my daughter Gayle playsrepparttar 141983 piano successfully, she knows noth­ing ofrepparttar 141984 inside parts which determine its action.

There's something left out in many of those books we read… You need to knowrepparttar 141985 process of succeeding, andrepparttar 141986 means to be used. But, first you need to know which factors deter­mine success.

"I've been thinking ofrepparttar 141987 advice whichrepparttar 141988 most successful people have given us. They think thatrepparttar 141989 factors which deter­mine success are hard work, enthusiasm, honesty, persistency, and so forth.

These are valuable assets, but they are notrepparttar 141990 determining factors.

"Knowledge, for instance, is a valuable asset, but it does not determine success- for there are thousands of men of knowl­edge who fail. Being industrious is a valuable asset, but not determining factors- for thousands of industrious workers fail to become successful men. We must dis­coverrepparttar 141991 determining factors first. Then, we'll knowrepparttar 141992 factors which will always insure success-which will always make suc­cess certain."

What arerepparttar 141993 factors then?

They are: health, good ap­pearance, hard work, enthusiasm, industry, persistence, sincerity, earnestness, self-confidence, concentration, determination, honesty, good memory, self-control, tact, patience, and imagination.

Findrepparttar 141994 rest ofrepparttar 141995 story at

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How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

Written by Kim Olver

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The final way to meet one’s need for power is "power within" oneself. This is generally seen as a need for pride or competence. Those with a high power need who meet it through power within methods like to always do their best. They may seem to be perfectionistic but producing their best is very need satisfying to them.

In relationships, this power need accounts for workaholism, people who always need to control everything around them and a low degree of tolerance for imperfection in others. The power need has a big influence in interpersonal relationships.

The fourth need to discuss isrepparttar need for freedom. People with a high need for freedom are independent and like to do things their own way. High freedom need people generally don't like rules---particularly ones that don't make sense. They also value their time alone. They like to do what they want, when they want.

There is usually an inverse relationship betweenrepparttar 141948 love & belonging andrepparttar 141949 freedom needs. When a person has a high need for love & belonging, he or she typically has a lower need for freedom and vice versa. Of course, there are exceptions but typically there is an opposite relationship betweenrepparttar 141950 two.

The last of Choice Theory’s basic human needs is fun. Fun seems pretty straightforward but there are some subtleties to it that are necessary to understand. There are basically three kinds of fun. There isrepparttar 141951 loud, energetic kind of fun that people might get from physical activity and parties, for example. There isrepparttar 141952 quiet, relaxing kind of fun that might be enjoyed by fishing, lying in a hammock on a warm summer’s day or reading for pleasure. Then there is learning as fun.

Now, I’m not talking about when you learned algebra! For most of us that wasn’t fun but I am talking about learning something you are interested in that has useful application for you. For me,repparttar 141953 best example is when I learned how to downhill ski and made itrepparttar 141954 first time downrepparttar 141955 slope without falling and getting snow down my jacket, up my pant legs and various other places! It isrepparttar 141956 sheer joy of learning something that interests you. Everyone has various ways of meeting their fun needs and it is these differences that can drastically affect your satisfaction in your relationship.

It is not always true that in order for your relationship to succeed, you must have equal or almost equal need strengths in all five needs. For some needs, it is best when one of you is high and one of you is low in that need.

Go to and takerepparttar 141957 free assessment today. It’s onrepparttar 141958 “Free Stuff” page, with a link provided onrepparttar 141959 home page. See whatrepparttar 141960 assessment has to say. If you have some questions, join me in my chat room during one of my scheduled chats to discuss it, leave me a message on my blog (click onrepparttar 141961 “View our Web Journal” link onrepparttar 141962 home page) or checkrepparttar 141963 events calendar for upcoming workshops.

There is so much to learn about improvingrepparttar 141964 significant relationships in our lives. This provides you with one more piece torepparttar 141965 puzzle. Our workshop and weekend conferences give you many more ofrepparttar 141966 puzzle pieces to help you make sense of and work to improve your relationships. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Invest in your relationships today.

Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power and improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. For further information about Kim visit her website at or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

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