For example, I recently reread a letter from Cindy Dior, an art therapist from Tempe, Arizona. She said in her letter, "I am in love with idea of doing what feels good, tapping into potential that serves to spark our creativity and positive experiences. Rather than starting healing process with people at place of their victimization -- depressing, grieving aspects of their lives, I want to start from perspective of what is joyous in their lives; what is beautiful and meaningful to them, what is really working for them. I want to encourage people to dwell on positive experiences of their lives so that they can maintain a more positive state of being every day. I am convinced that by practicing a reframing of thoughts and ideas, people can change and grow and become all that they can be."

I had never met Cindy. Obviously, her ideas meshed with mine. I was startled by uplifting power and sense of joy I felt knowing that someone out west had read my work, and not only connected with it, but bothered to share with me how her work also emphasized similar elements.

Yes, I have come to believe that there is a synergy around world in various places, a magical network of people -- people of all backgrounds who wish and are working for a more wholesome, optimistic world where we can stay committed to a communal sharing of positive energies.

In another short article I wish to continue and tell you about more people I have met in this exciting 'mind' travel I am now doing and also how another unexpected modern miracle has taken me on even more unexpected modern day 'pen pal' adventures!

Ask yourself this question: "Did that person do this to me on purpose?" In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.

Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not address anger directly, but it can minimize damage you will do while angry.

Try some "new and improved" variations of counting to ten. For instance, try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in between each number. Deep breathing -- from your diaphragm -- helps people relax.

Or try pacing your numbers as you count. The old "one-steamboat-two-steamboat, etc." trick seems kind of lame to me. Steamboats are not best devices to reduce your steam. How about "One-chocolate-ice-cream-two-chocolate-ice-cream", or use something else that you find either pleasant or humorous.

Visualize a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind. Make it your stress-free oasis.

One thing I do not recommend is "venting" your anger. Sure, a couple swift blows to your pillow might make you feel better (better, at least, than same blows to door!), but research shows that "venting" anger only increases it. In fact, speaking or acting with any emotion simply rehearses, practices and builds that emotion.

If these tips do not help at all and you still feel you cannot manage your anger and related stress, you may need some professional help, either in form of a therapist specializing in anger management or a coach with a strong background in psychology.