The Communal Sharing of Enchantment

Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

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For example, I recently reread a letter from Cindy Dior, an art therapist from Tempe, Arizona. She said in her letter, "I am in love withrepparttar idea of doing what feels good, tapping intorepparttar 126247 potential that serves to spark our creativity and positive experiences. Rather than startingrepparttar 126248 healing process with people atrepparttar 126249 place of their victimization --repparttar 126250 depressing, grieving aspects of their lives, I want to start fromrepparttar 126251 perspective of what is joyous in their lives; what is beautiful and meaningful to them, what is really working for them. I want to encourage people to dwell onrepparttar 126252 positive experiences of their lives so that they can maintain a more positive state of being every day. I am convinced that by practicing a reframing of thoughts and ideas, people can change and grow and become all that they can be."

I had never met Cindy. Obviously, her ideas meshed with mine. I was startled byrepparttar 126253 uplifting power and sense of joy I felt knowing that someone out west had read my work, and not only connected with it, but bothered to share with me how her work also emphasized similar elements.

Yes, I have come to believe that there is a synergy aroundrepparttar 126254 world in various places, a magical network of people -- people of all backgrounds who wish and are working for a more wholesome, optimistic world where we can stay committed to a communal sharing of positive energies.

In another short article I wish to continue and tell you about more people I have met in this exciting 'mind' travel I am now doing and also how another unexpected modern miracle has taken me on even more unexpected modern day 'pen pal' adventures!

Dr. Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self and a psychologist since 1981. She is the author of two books: The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy and Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! Dr. Holstein speaks on radio, and appears on television in NY and NJ. She gives lectures, seminars, retreats and audio interviews on and is in private practice in Long Branch, NJ with her husband, Dr. Russell Holstein.

Eight simple anger management tips

Written by David Leonhardt

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Ask yourself this question: "Did that person do this to me on purpose?" In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.

Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not addressrepparttar anger directly, but it can minimizerepparttar 126246 damage you will do while angry.

Try some "new and improved" variations of counting to ten. For instance, try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in between each number. Deep breathing -- from your diaphragm -- helps people relax.

Or try pacing your numbers as you count. The old "one-steamboat-two-steamboat, etc." trick seems kind of lame to me. Steamboats are notrepparttar 126247 best devices to reduce your steam. How about "One-chocolate-ice-cream-two-chocolate-ice-cream", or use something else that you find either pleasant or humorous.

Visualize a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind. Make it your stress-free oasis.

One thing I do not recommend is "venting" your anger. Sure, a couple swift blows to your pillow might make you feel better (better, at least, thanrepparttar 126248 same blows torepparttar 126249 door!), but research shows that "venting" anger only increases it. In fact, speaking or acting with any emotion simply rehearses, practices and builds that emotion.

If these tips do not help at all and you still feel you cannot manage your anger andrepparttar 126250 related stress, you may need some professional help, either inrepparttar 126251 form of a therapist specializing in anger management or a coach with a strong background in psychology.

David Leonhardt is the Happy Guy (, author of "Climb your Stairway to Heaven: the 9 habits of maximum happiness at For more tips on controlling anger, boosting self-esteem, expressing gratitude and reducing stress, pick up a copy of The Get Happy Workbook (

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