In Inner Bonding, there are only two possible intents at any given moment: intent to learn about love and intent to protect against and avoid pain. The intent to learn says that we want to learn about our own pain in order to understand what we need to do to be loving to our Inner Child and others; The intent to protect says that we want to avoid experiencing our pain at all cost. The child-adult is always in intent to protect and loving Adult is always in intent to learn.

The six-steps of Inner Bonding are:

1 - The willingness to become aware of our pain rather than protect against it with our various addictions.

2 - The conscious decision to move into intent to learn.

3 - Dialoguing with our wounded self to discover false beliefs and resulting behavior behind pain. Releasing anger and pain in appropriate ways.

4 - Dialoguing with our Higher Power to learn about truth and loving behavior.

5 - Taking loving action in behalf or our Inner Child.

6 - Evaluating action.

All parents needs to be in a process of healing themselves. It is particularly important for single parents to be in this process since they are primary role-models for their children. The more you heal fears and false beliefs of your wounded self, more loving you will naturally be with yourself and your children. Learning to utilize these six step throughout day, especially in times of anger, fear, anxiety and stress, will eventually heal false beliefs leading to these difficult feelings.

It was also immediately clear from my results that what I was missing in my role in software world was individual interaction. I needed to work with and through people not my computer terminal. I also needed to be engaged in long term planning - something which is nearly impossible in fast paced environment of a software start-up. I needed to be in an environment that allowed fuller expression of my ideas as well as opportunity to develop an area of specific expertise. I was an extroverted-specialist working as a generalist! No wonder I was reaching burnout.

Armed with these new insights, it was easy to find my new path. Shortly after taking The Highlands I realized I wanted to become a personal coach. I went back to school, earned my professional coaching certification and opened a private practice, www.vip-coaching.com, focusing on career coaching. Now, clients with stories similar to mine have been finding their way to me. I am very happy to be able to share my career change experience and help them define their own.

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Deirdre McEachern’s passion for life is translated into helping her clients achieve their dreams. Deirdre walked away from high stress world of high-tech and undertook a complete career change. She now loves her work as an entreprenuer and personal coach. Deirdre’s coaching specialty is helping people attain satisfaction in their careers and lives just as she did. She believes strongly that everyone can find a career which they enjoy, expresses their passion and uses their natural talents. You can contact Deirdre at deirdre@vip-coaching.com Copyright 2001-2003 by Deirdre McEachern. May be distributed if full attribution is given and copyright notice is included.

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