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Every relationship is an exchange, and yes a form of negotiations is taking place. They may be exchanging your love and support for my love and support or any of a variety of role designations. What each party brings to table may not be directly negotiated, but an evaluation is taking place on how a potential partner attributes meets your desires and needs. Yet none of this has anything to do with a "buy" and this decision making process goes on whether we are aware of it or not and it is a good way of determining if both are a good fit for relationship. You say an American version of your wife would not be interested in you. What exactly does that mean?
I said she would not notice me. This means I would not catch eye of an extremely beautiful American woman 18 years younger than me. What is an American "version" of your wife?
The short answer is a top of line woman with super model looks in prime of her youth with a college education. How do you qualify that statement?
I will quantify it for you a perfect 10. Does it mean that you are shallow and require a certain physical ideal woman whose arbitrary and fleeting beauty you desire? It means that I am normal and enjoy beauty of attractive younger women. I don't expect beauty of my wife to diminish in my eyes. Beauty is not "arbitrary" it is well defined in our society, but there is nothing wrong with an individuals arbitrary determination of beauty. While you like to throw out "shallow" I considered all tangible and intangible qualities in selection of my wife. If anyone is shallow maybe it is you. You appear to want to eliminate looks as a factor in choosing a partner because it is fleeting. You throw less into mix than I do. So, how does that make you different from women who are after men for their money or power?
I have no objections to such women. They can set their criteria in any manner they so choose. I provide an avenue for men to counter such women. I am not trying to restrict anyone's selection of a spouse as you appear to be. It just seems so cynical when people view relationships this way. To use a really silly example, it is kind of like fictional relationships depicted on "reality" t.v. Joe Millionaire wants a woman who is beautiful (his shallow criteria) and women are looking for money (their shallow criteria). [I gather from all hoopla about it that woman who won was not actually in it for money, but who cares.] Anyway, premise was such that he would get his beautiful woman, but that when she finds out he is not rich she will want nothing to do with him. I suppose that intention of shows like this is to stereotype women as gold-diggers and men as shallow people seeking trophy wives. This just seems so cynical and jaded to me. I bring this up because that is overall impression I get when looking at websites such as yours.
I don't see cynicism you see. International Introductions exudes positivism and hope for discovering a different variety of woman that may be more suited for some men and compatibility of their relationship. It is not cynical for two adults to determine content and means for forming a relationship. It appears that your cynicism derives from viewer and not by what is being viewed. And I guess what I'm saying is that maybe there are gold-digging women and shallow men in world.
Men seeking beautiful wives are not shallow. If Albert Einstein wanted an attractive, young, beautiful foreign wife by your definition he would be shallow. And maybe they deserve each other when they end up together, and they don't mind what their relationships are based upon. (I can't imagine that they would actually be happy, but hey). And I feel like general message of your website is to take man's portion of that shallow relationship and do away with it. As though you are saying: "Hey you! Want a gorgeous wife but don't have money to attract one? We have solution!"
Your belief that wanting a gorgeous, foreign wife makes you shallow is wrong. But even if we accept your conclusion what is wrong with that? If I only want to watch cartoons instead of "better" television programming and you consider this shallow, fine. What's this have to do with your involvement and concern between two adults and relationship they choose to be in? I know many, many beautiful American women who don't care about finances of their significant others.
I accept that. And I also know many American men who look for more in a wife than physical appearance
This is case for every man I know And before you think to correct me on this I am aware that beauty and age are not only selling points of your introduction service, they are just important enough to be mentioned prominently on your main web page.
You should know by now that men are visual, which is why beauty and youth holds a prominent role for men. It is simply way we are and there is nothing wrong with that. Calling men shallow for our nature is like calling a man a "plate" word carries no negative concern or relevance to us. It does not make us feel ashamed or any less driven in using beauty as an important component in selecting a wife.
Jamie Morrow is the owner of International Introductions http://International-Introductions.com a marriage agency specializing in Latin women. His expertise is in the mail order brides industry which has come under attack with pending legislation. He can be reached at: Jamie@Latin-Wife.com