4. Don't try to change yourself to "fit" into a relationship.

You will not be able to attract your ideal partner by knowing what men/women want in a relationship and trying to provide it. If you know what you want and what you can give in a relationship, you will connect with a partner who is a natural fit for you. Look deep within yourself to find out what you want in a relationship and what you can give.

5. Assess communication in your relationships.

There are three questions to ask yourself regarding communication in a relationship, whether you are just dating someone, are in a new relationship or in an established one.

1) Can you talk to your partner honestly and openly about your feelings, needs and wants and can he or she hear you and respond? 2) Can two of you make corrections in your relationship when necessary? 3) Do two of you have more communication and problem solving than drama?

If your answer to these three is "yes," two of you have necessary beginning of building a wonderful relationship.

If you are answer is no, you need to consider stepping up communication. A really good relationship, satisfying to both partners, always has excellent communication as one of its cornerstones.

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These suggestions are your first steps for improving your ability to attract your ideal mate and build your ideal relationship. Next week, read second half of my most popular personal development recommendations for attracting and sustaining a healthy, long-term relationship.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"

(8) Observe other drivers' actions after crash. If they are crawling under their car to inspect damage after an accident, then they don't have a serious injury. A photo of this wouldn't hurt your case.

(9) Control your temper. It is easier for police to determine you are at fault if you are a raving hothead. You will be one they remember two months from now in court. Stay cool.

(10) Get names and badge numbers of police present. Each officer may have a different view of what evidence was, and having contact with all of them might help your case.

(11) Get a copy of your claim file from your insurance company. Double check to make sure your claim is accurate. A mistake found today can save you from paying high premiums in future.

(1) Don't admit fault to anyone. Your words might be used against you later. (2) Never discuss how auto accident happened. You don't want other drivers' versions of car accident to influence yours, and you don't want something to slip out that makes you responsible.

(3) Avoid moving your car until after you have other parties' license and vehicle registration information. Don't give other driver a chance to drive off, leaving you with problem.

(4) Refuse t0 accept any roadside settlements. Often damage can be hidden and much greater than originally expected.

(5) Don't let anyone pick your auto repair facility for you. You have right by law to choose whichever auto repair shop you'd like, and your insurance must cover it. Ask your friends and neighbors for a reputable shop. Pick one that has been in business at least five years, preferably ten. You want a business that will be around if you have problems later.

Donald Smith is the president and founder of Auto Glass America. Visit his website at crackedwindshield.com to get more car tips.