· Help your child to resolve conflicts nonviolently. When facing a conflict, encourage your child to do following:

(1) Find out what conflict is. For example, if your child is angry because his little brother barges into his room without knocking, help him to explain conflict by using an "I" statement, such as "I feel angry when you come into my room without knocking." (2) Next, suggest different ways he might resolve conflict. He could say to his brother, "I know I can't always hear when I'm listening to music, so you knock really loud five times--if I don't answer, then open door." Or, "If I don't answer your knock, slide a note under door." Or, "Let's use our walkie talkies."

(3) Then have your child agree on one of choices.

(4) Finally, have him make a plan to check whether solution is working.

Teach your child to respect valued traditions of your heritage. Talk about family customs for showing respect, for honoring elders and for helping community. Encourage her to do these things.

Children need to learn that being part of a family and a community involves accepting responsibilities. When each of us acts responsibly, our families and communities will be stronger.

What You Can Do

· Make agreements with your child and expect him to follow through.

· When things go wrong, help your child take responsibility for her part and make a plan to do things differently next time.

Encourage your child to find out more about world and how his actions may affect others far away.