Making choice to either fight back or to run away can feel risky to you. You may feel afraid to try either one. However, consequences of doing nothing are serious indeed. Fear will exist in extreme situations and can limit your capabilities unless you incorporate it into a mind-set that allows you to exceed its paralyzing force. Do not let fear or panic control you. Instead, let your fear and adrenaline motivate action.

The best timing you can have is when opponent doesn't see it coming. Surprise attacks instill fear and confusion. If your assailant takes you by surprise, remain as calm as possible and take a quick assessment of facts. This may require that you be thinking one thing and physically performing another.

Mistakes are inevitable because combat is continuous and ongoing. Fighting is not static or choreographed. Surviving an encounter often requires adaptability. So, prepare your mind and body to act, using whatever it takes, for however long it takes, to remain alive. If something isn't working, move on. Ride out any unsuccessful maneuvers without seizing up or panicking.

You cannot always control your surroundings or what is happening to you, so you must control your actions. Guide yourself through crisis by going with current as opposed to fighting it, until you can reach shore. Sometimes, you can expect this process to be painful. Tell yourself ahead of time that, no matter how badly it might hurt, that you will never, never give up. This endurance mindset can save your life. To survive is not a matter of conquering, but of enduring. It is to outlast a given situation. In a word, persevere!

Serious conflict has a way of releasing in you a heightened sense of awareness. Yet it is possible that your energy may become misdirected and lead to a failed performance. By keeping energy in reserve (what I call 90% Rule), you can maintain this heightened state and remain alert so that opportunities are not overlooked. If you strike a pad with 100% of your energy, then hit it again using only 90%, it would be very hard to tell difference. In fact, a 90% energy strike is often more relaxed, powerful, and quick. Marshal your resources or no matter how skilled, you'll be defeated due to lack. Conflict, like many things in this world, contains a unique rhythm. Experts that find rhythm can pace themselves without haste and miscalculation.

Life itself is simplified in dangerous circumstances making less, enough. Anyone who has experienced and survived a life-threatening event can tell you what is really important in this world. If you can envision for a moment, what it must be like to be close to edge of life and death, it is easy to see how ones priorities can change. The survivor is keenly aware of possibility of a traumatic attack and need to take precautions. In end, every effort you make to discipline your physical and emotional reflexes will help to hone your intuition and keep you whole.

You can find out more about Robert Bussey and these concepts online at http://www.busseystyle.com

God’s plan for you...

God has a plan and it's not about pointless denial. His plan is first marriage and then sex after legal, spiritual and emotional commitment. When you create a list of rules for your kids, you do so to protect them, right? Well, God is no different. He loves you and wants to spare you unnecessary grief.

There is forgiveness....

If for whatever reason, you have engaged in a sexual relationship outside of marriage understand that God still loves you. Our blunders don't make Him love us any less. He desperately wants to put pieces of your life back together and make all things new again.

Living life "our way", guided by our emotions or feelings, always brings disappointment and shame. However, God specializes in such wounds. Allow Him to cleanse your pain and remove your guilt (read 1John 1:9). If you confess your sin, He WILL forgive it. He’s promised. The next and most crucial step is for you to forgive yourself.

Our children....

Our children rely on us to model appropriate moral standards. Most wise moms advise their teens to abstain from sex before marriage. We carefully explain to them dangers of sex "now a days". We share how abstinence protects us against sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Taking this into account, why should we want anything different for ourselves? Our children are growing up so fast. Our time with them is very precious. Let's not taint it recovering from unecessary love-related heartbreaks. Nothing is worse for children than to see their moms wounded, hurt, bitter and dejected.

My mother recently told me, (relative to my health) 'a good mother takes supreme care of herself for sake of her children'. I think same applies to emotional health. Don’t run risk of giving your body and soul away only to be left with an empty bed and broken heart. It really isn't worth it, single mom.

Teri Worten is a freelance writer and the founder of several inspirational websites for women and single moms. One is called Gotta Be Me, Girl.Com. You can access the site by following the link: http://www.gottabemegirl.com. Secondly, visit the Greater Kansas City Single Mom Network at http://www.kcsinglemomnetwork.com.