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On your own you can try a few of these pointers. Have in your mind
goal that you want to achieve- a freely flowing communication with your children. You and your children should be able to talk to one another in a very calm expressive way using words, sentences, gestures, facial expressions and
like. (Note: This means that yelling and screaming in anger is NOT considered a healthy communication. It will often result in
listener reacting to
outburst in a unhealthy way. This is especially true for when parents yell at their children.)
Take upon yourself to try some of
following exercises, and see what
results are:
- Show
child that you are ready to listen and pay full attention to what
child is saying. Let
child feel that there is someone who is going to try to listen to them. This will cut down on
degree of frustration for
child. - Encourage
child to talk in full sentences if possible. Sometimes children (who can actually talk properly) often just whine, cry, or say one-word expressions, simply because they are accustomed to doing so. - Prepare different options for
child to express himself- signs, objects, drawing, etc. You need to be creative here. Sometimes ideas can be expressed in
most unconventional ways- e.g. a child can create a scenario with toy figures. - Make sure you are able to repeat to
child what
child said to you. This is a crucial part of
process because for
child this is
guaranteed confirmation that you understood
child’s expression.
Story: Someone hit 6-year-old Sally. Sally comes home crying. Mommy keeps on asking Sally what happened, but for some reason she can’t say it in words. Mommy takes Sally by
hand and brings her over to
art table where there is some paper and some big fat kiddie markers ready for her. Sally sits down and starts drawing in her 5-year-old way
following picture: stick figures of a little girl and a little boy. The boy has his hand on
girl’s face. Mommy sees this and figures that
boy is hitting
girl in
face. She asks Sally if this is so. Sally nods. “AHA!” thinks Mommy. “now I understand.....”

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