Written by Terry L. Sumerlin

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Earlier inrepparttar week something happened atrepparttar 136919 hotel that was similar torepparttar 136920 Whataburger experience, but not nearly as funny. A boy about 10 years old was struggling withrepparttar 136921 door, as he was trying to enter with a clothes cart. I hurried over to holdrepparttar 136922 door. He never even said “thank you.” But, it gets worse. His dad stood nearby, looking very successful in his coat and tie. He never expressed appreciation either. What a sad example.

The incident is similar torepparttar 136923 hamburger story in this: They’re bothrepparttar 136924 result of a type of “thoughtlessness.” Inrepparttar 136925 first caserepparttar 136926 young lady was just doing what she was trained to do. Go forrepparttar 136927 up sale. It never occurred to her that someone might order a small burger for a reason. No harm done. The second case was simply “thoughtless” ingratitude.

Onrepparttar 136928 brighter side, later inrepparttar 136929 week, at an IHOP a half dozen teenage girls went throughrepparttar 136930 door as I held it open. Every single one of them thanked me. Different upbringing – different thoughts.

In all of this, I can’t help being reminded thatrepparttar 136931 Bible says Jesus healed ten lepers, and only one returned to thank him. We should not expect better. It’s a waste of time and energy that is better spent learning ways to show gratitude.

BARBER-OSOPHY: The genuinely successful are usually thoughtfully thankful.

Terry L. Sumerlin, known as the Barber-osopher, is the author of "Barber-osophy," and is a columnist for the San Antonio Business Journal. He speaks nationally as a humorist/motivational speaker. Visit his website at

Mindfulness and Birthdays: Surprising Moments

Written by Maya Talisman Frost

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And if we do it right, there's plenty to laugh about, even when we look back onrepparttar bumpiest of years. Asrepparttar 136918 old saying goes, having a birthday is better thanrepparttar 136919 alternative!

If your own birthday doesn't inspire you, look forward torepparttar 136920 ones celebrated by others. Turn them into an opportunity to play a little birthday mindfulness game.

Inrepparttar 136921 spirit of finding a reason for celebrating reflection, I called an old high school friend on his 45th birthday last month.

He was absolutely dumbfounded. We hadn't talked in over ten years, and our last conversation was a quick hello at a class reunion. But I had always remembered his April 8th birthday, so I made a round of phone calls and tracked him down, reaching him at home as he celebrated quietly with a handful of family and friends.

We had a delightful conversation. It made me wonder why I'd never picked uprepparttar 136922 phone to call him in all these years. But then, we all knowrepparttar 136923 answer to that--we get busy, and even if we do think of calling, we talk ourselves out of it because it might be, well, weird.

Far from weird, it was heartwarming, affirming, and truly connected us despiterepparttar 136924 fact that our friendship had faded over 25 years ago. Atrepparttar 136925 end of our call, Scott said, "I will never forget this as long as I live."

What more can anyone ask of a birthday?

Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon. Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she offers fun and effective eyes-wide-open alternatives to meditation. To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage, please visit

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