"Stupid Advice"

Written by Rhiannon Hill

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And advice is often manipulative.

My friend was having a party and couldn't decide whether to fillrepparttar house with flowers. A third friend launched into a whole complicated monologue aboutrepparttar 141182 cost ofrepparttar 141183 flowers,repparttar 141184 work involved arranging them, and so on.

The party giver's cat wandered in. I said I wouldn't pet it because I am allergic to long haired cats. The advice giver immediately sympathised.

'Oh, I am allergic to so many things, I have to avoid cats, dust mites, pollen... you name it!'

She reddened and suddenly went very quiet. Her 'advice' was based onrepparttar 141185 fact that large number of pollen-laden flowers would have spoiledrepparttar 141186 party for her!

An honest response would have been: 'flowers would make it hard for me to come to your party...'

I don't give advice to psychotherapy clients. We often need a range of options to process. I just support them in coming up with options, that's all.

Expert opinion is valuable - butrepparttar 141187 giver needs to detach fromrepparttar 141188 outcome.

Practical advice is different: if water is pouring out of a burst pipe you needrepparttar 141189 person who knowsrepparttar 141190 location ofrepparttar 141191 stopcock!

But if someone asks for more abstract 'advice' I'll first ask what they think they should do, and if they're stuck, I'll say, 'well, you might want to look at... etc'

That leaves it open. Because hey, if it all goes wrong I don't wantrepparttar 141192 responsibility of having maderepparttar 141193 decision for them!

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Practical Ways To Save Money When Shopping Online

Written by Chileshe Mwape

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3. Use Coupon sites and Deal Aggregators These sites provide a wide variety of coupons, promotional codes and discounts acrossrepparttar internet. They lead you to retailers, rather than selling yourepparttar 141158 merchandise directly. Examples: Wow-Coupons, CurrentCodes.com and FatWallet.

4. Use Classifieds or Auction sites With most goods, buying straight fromrepparttar 141159 high street will add a considerable sum torepparttar 141160 price tag. Itís possible to make vast savings by purchasing your item second-hand. You can buy most merchandise cheaper from auction sites such as EBay and Ubid online.

5. Drop Brand Names You can easily get cheaper products by opting for lesser-known names inrepparttar 141161 market. These cheaper items are usually as good as some ofrepparttar 141162 more expensive varieties fromrepparttar 141163 big companies. In some instances, youíll only be paying forrepparttar 141164 name because some ofrepparttar 141165 products are manufactured byrepparttar 141166 same companies.

There are many other ways to save money while shopping online, but shopping around before you buy makes it easier to getrepparttar 141167 best value on various products and services.

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