To create each of these custom aromatic blends, add essential oils to a 10-oz bottle and then add organic vegetable oil to fill.

******** Forgive Yourself ******** -3 drops Rose otto -8 drops Sandalwood -5 drops Geranium -4 drops Sage

Anoint heart chakra and solar plexus. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply.

Affirmation: "Any negative or unhealthy attitudes from my part toward others are forgiven and healed."

******** Understanding ******** -3 drops Rose otto -6 drops Sandalwood -3 drops German Chamomile -5 drops Frankincense

Anoint heart chakra, solar plexus and third eye. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply.

Affirmation: "I understand others and accept and love them for who they are."

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This can also be done by setting up two chairs and creating a verbal exchange in which we speak alternatively for each part of ourselves as we change positions sitting in each chair as we change perspective and seek to feel and express that aspect of ourselves.

4. The fourth step is to take position of our higher wiser self and speak to both parts of ourselves. Both part, which wants to change and one, which does not, are equally aspects of our being. They are like our children and they need to be accepted and loved as they are. They need to be helped to love harmoniously in same body and mind.

5. In end we need to understand that our true being is not limited to either of these aspects. We are something much greater.

This mutual inner acceptance and communication between these conflicting aspects our being opens door to a type of inner cooperation which brings about a much more effective and lasting change than can ever be accomplished through self-rejection and conflict.

The same is obviously true about our need to change others. We can get much better results if we accept and understand them and their needs and then express our needs in an atmosphere of mutual understanding and respect.

As for fear that we might relax too much and not move forward if we accept ourselves, we would do well to remember that all of nature seeks to evolve. Our inner being naturally seeks to evolve. This is our basic inner need. We are all driven by an inner pressure towards perfection. How else can we know that we do not have perfect love or justice, unless we have an inner frame of reference.

We want to create health, harmony, peace and love in our lives because these remind us of out true inner self. These are who and what we are.

No matter how much we accept ourselves we will always want to move towards that manifestation of our inner potential.

We need to externalize our inner beauty. Loving and accepting ourselves is first step towards that.

(Adapted from "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available at http://www.Amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. This book and other writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.)