Start a Conversation and Make a FriendWritten by Michael Page
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Getting started Most people find it difficult being on their own in a crowd of people who all appear to be happily socialising. It makes sense that if you simply walk across to a person standing on their own, introduce yourself and start talking, they will be thankful and will want to talk to you. But how do you actually start? What do you say? What you say is less important than actually just saying something to break ice. It is extremely important to make sure of two things. Say it with confidence and make sure that your opening statement is positive. A complaint about boring music or lack of food at a party isn’t going to win you new friends. A positive statement about anything will normally get you a smile and a positive comment back. Your opening line could either be a statement or a question. The important thing is to involve other person immediately and to quickly find something in common. The safest thing to talk about is generally current situation. If you’re at an exhibition, choose closest or most interesting painting. At a party, ask “How do you know John (the host)”. Be prepared to have same question asked back, but this will quickly allow you to find common ground and start asking open-ended questions. Now for hard part - go and chat to a stranger and have fun!
Michael Page is the author of the e-Book, “How To Get Lucky”: the essential guide for single men who want to meet women. This article is an extract from the chapter on developing your conversational skills. http://www.how-to-get-lucky.com mailto:mpagemail@yahoo.com
| | Coaching is Like GardeningWritten by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach
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SEEDS These are new plans and goals. Here are some of goals my clients have had recently: ·Become a coach -A. L. ·Declutter my house. - M. M. ·Get balance in my life. - T.J. ·Find a career I can stand. - J.D.A. ·Make a new life. - J. H. ·Get organized. - L.S. FERTILIZER Often coach supplies fertilizer for a while - encouragement, so client can grow. Helping client gain a sense of empowerment. Working on emotional intelligence competencies, and optimism, facilitator of all those competencies. THE GARDEN These are goals achieved - when AL becomes a coach, and MM declutters her house, and JH has her new life.
©Courtesy, Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach. Coaching and Internet courses in emotional intelligence, applications to career and relationships. http://www.susandunn.cc , mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.
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