Speak Up For Yourself, Create and Communicate Boundries

Written by Kimberly Fulcher


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acceptable level of space around you.  Your boundaries in this area will govern how close someone may stand to you, andrepparttar physical manner in which they may interact with you. 


Define Your Boundaries

You show people how to treat you every time you interact with them.  If you allow someone to tell a joke at your expense, laughing onrepparttar 123327 outside while wincing onrepparttar 123328 inside, you're teaching them they can bully you.  If you allow your mate or children to leave their personal items all overrepparttar 123329 house, cleaning up after them as you move through your home, you're teaching them you'll clean up after them. 

Take a few moments to decide how you'll require others to treat you.  As you do so, stay focused onrepparttar 123330 respect, appreciation, and consideration you know you deserve.


Enforce Your Boundaries

The successful enforcement of interpersonal boundaries requires clear communication.  The five part model outlined below is used quite regularly inrepparttar 123331 coaching industry, and will support you as you embrace your own process. 

  • Inform - Clearly describerepparttar 123332 problem.
  • Define The Unacceptable -Letrepparttar 123333 other party now what about their behavior was not acceptable.
  • Share Your Emotions - Letrepparttar 123334 other person know howrepparttar 123335 situation made you feel.
  • Request The Solution You Seek - Askrepparttar 123336 other person forrepparttar 123337 solution you seek.
  • Let Them Know Their Alternatives - Letrepparttar 123338 other person know what you plan to do if they won't comply with your request.

The process of setting and enforcing boundaries is not an easy one, but it will be well worth your effort.  Your ability to maintain space in your life - physically, emotionally, and mentally - will directly contribute to your developmental success.  Your inability to do so will seriously detract from repparttar 123339 growth you could experience. 

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Mary's Dream: A True Life Story

Written by Arthur Zulu


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"By Jove,repparttar girl is dead" he says to Lord Godsend, pointing torepparttar 123326 sleeping Mary as they ride pass.

"How do you know, Jonny?" askedrepparttar 123327 rich man.

" Upon mi life, killed by robbers, mi Lord.'' So they argued back and forth. But after they had gone a good distance, Lord Godsend asked to be driven back to confirm who is right. But Jonny didn't want to hear and promptedrepparttar 123328 horse to ride on. "By heavens she must be smelling mi Lord".

Mary had woken up now. She finishes her writing, reads it and signs her name. She quickly eats her last food, drinksrepparttar 123329 mixture, and lies down waiting to die.

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"Exactly what I said, mi Lord" said Jonny showing Lord Godsendrepparttar 123330 empty bottle of arsenic when they finally got there. "Poisoned herself to death. By my horse shoe, a bad girl."

Lord Godsend picksrepparttar 123331 suicide note and reads, " I drank poison and died. Because thieves stolerepparttar 123332 money that I wanted to use to buy a Bible. Weep not for me, dear mum and dad. We will meet again—Mary Jones."

Lord Godsend was angry. Who must have soldrepparttar 123333 poison that killed this girl? He looked atrepparttar 123334 poison bottle and readrepparttar 123335 address label: ARSENIC. DR. HADES. 13 BALA ROAD, UPTOWN. He got intorepparttar 123336 carriage at once and rode away to getrepparttar 123337 cops to arrest Dr. Hades. When they got there, however,repparttar 123338 apothecary was swearing and saying that he never sold her arsenic but a sleeping mixture, which he put in an arsenic container and even gave her backrepparttar 123339 money to buy food since he thought that she needed food and a good sleep.

Butrepparttar 123340 cops and allrepparttar 123341 villagers who gathered there that morning will not believe Dr. Hades.

"Do you think Jonny thatrepparttar 123342 girl is sleeping or dead?" asked Lord Godsend.

"Uponrepparttar 123343 wheels of this carriage she is as dead as a rock. If otherwise, I will drink arsenic and join my ancestors," he replies. And to proverepparttar 123344 pointrepparttar 123345 police decide to first visitrepparttar 123346 scene, before takingrepparttar 123347 apothecary to jail.

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Mary wakes up. What is this?she asks. Had she not taken poison to die? She looks around but she could find neitherrepparttar 123348 arsenic bottle, norrepparttar 123349 sucide note. Only her empty basket. This must be a bad dream she thought. She now gets up and is confronted by crowd led byrepparttar 123350 police and a rich man in a horse- drawn carriage. She thought of running. But where can a girl; who is weak, hungry and cold run to? The people also stood momentarily thinking that it was an apparition.

But it was Dr. Hades that seizedrepparttar 123351 initiative and exclaimed: "See! She was only sleeping, not dead. Then things were explained . Lord Godsend took her to an inn where he gave her food to eat and filled her basket with provisions. He also gave her some money to buyrepparttar 123352 Bible. Mary, full of thanks torepparttar 123353 kind man continued to walkrepparttar 123354 remaining 7 kilometers to Bala. Andrepparttar 123355 people wondered atrepparttar 123356 courage of this little girl who is walking 40 kilometers to buy a Bible.

After that, they joked whether Jonny would take arsenic and die as he swore, for that is what honorable men do. But Jonny was not a man of honor. "Inrepparttar 123357 name of allrepparttar 123358 saints" he swore again, "I knew not when I said so." And they just laughed and called him Jonnyrepparttar 123359 joker.

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It was Sunday noon when Mary enteredrepparttar 123360 church premises. The church service had just ended andrepparttar 123361 worshippers were stepping out ofrepparttar 123362 church. Then she askedrepparttar 123363 first people that she met whererepparttar 123364 Bible copies were sold. One calledrepparttar 123365 other and soon everyone gathered and looked at her as if she was a space alien.

It was not that she was bare footed and poorly dressed. The fact was that allrepparttar 123366 Bibles had sold out yesterday. Andrepparttar 123367 money that she was having could not even buy one, even if it was available. Double trouble for Mary.

Because ofrepparttar 123368 chaos that Saturday,repparttar 123369 Reverend Father himself soldrepparttar 123370 Bibles. He first took his special personal copy that was sent to him byrepparttar 123371 pope that copy was printed in different colors in both Welsh and English. It also has cross references and a Bible index. The title cover itself is printed in gold letters andrepparttar 123372 whole Bible is zipped in a golden case. It was such a beautiful Bible that people were busy looking at it whenrepparttar 123373 common bibles sold out.

Those who did not get copies ofrepparttar 123374 Bible were many—some families joined to buy one. In fact, two churchman fought over ownership ofrepparttar 123375 last copy, tearing it into two parts. Inrepparttar 123376 end, both sharedrepparttar 123377 cost and by a toss ofrepparttar 123378 coin, one tookrepparttar 123379 Old Testament whilerepparttar 123380 other tookrepparttar 123381 New Testament. That was why they looked at Mary in wonderment, and when they explained to her, she collapsed and wept.

Now, Rev. Goodman looked throughrepparttar 123382 church window and wondered what was amiss. So he took his winter coat and walked out, his golden Bible in hand. After listening to Mary's story,repparttar 123383 Reverend first dried her tears and kissed her. Then he slipped his sandals under her feet, took off his winter coat and put it on Mary. Third he gave her his golden Bible in Welsh and English and which was printed in many colors with these words: "Read it carefully, study it diligently, treasure uprepparttar 123384 sacred words in your memory, and act up to its teaching." And he finally blesses her and tells her to userepparttar 123385 money which Lord Godsend gave her to pay for a ride home. Mary's eyes shone,repparttar 123386 church people were speechless.

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It was big news when Mary reached Llanfiangel on a horse -drawn carriage wearing a winter coat, pair of sandals, and wait a moment: a golden Bible! Everyone flocked to seerepparttar 123387 bible and her poor parents were overjoyed.

Years later, this story was told atrepparttar 123388 Committee ofrepparttar 123389 Religious Tract Society of London. The result was that a decision was made to supply Bible translations torepparttar 123390 people of Wales andrepparttar 123391 whole world. So if you own a Bible today, rememberrepparttar 123392 sacrifice of a sixteen- year old girl from a remote village in Wales whose dream came true.

May your dream come true!

ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer and author ofrepparttar 123393 controversial book CHASING SHADOWS!: A Dream. ( A book that revealsrepparttar 123394 terrorists' master plan to finally setrepparttar 123395 world on fire!) For a copy ofrepparttar 123396 book and FREE excerpt, goto: http://www.1stbooks.com/bookview/21013 For contacts, mailto: mostcontroversialwriter@yahoo.com



ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer and author of the controversial book CHASING SHADOWS!: A Dream. ( A book that reveals the terrorists' master plan to finally set the world on fire!) For a copy of the book and FREE excerpt, goto: http://www.1stbooks.com/bookview/21013 For contacts, mailto: mostcontroversialwriter@yahoo.com




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