Spanking Children

Written by Rexanne Mancini


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One interesting comment was from a mother who said she only spanked her child whenrepparttar kid was outright defiant. Well, you know, I wanted to consider that option for about two seconds! When my older daughter is defiant, my immediate instinct is to smack her ... but I don't. She is now an inch taller than I am and almost outweighs me. Not a good time to start swatting her butt. She'd either laugh at me or hit me back. Neither option seems conducive to maintaining authority! As much as that option sounded tempting, it is notrepparttar 110701 answer. If we are to grow as a people, we need to adopt more humane methods of teaching our children to behave.

The comment that disturbed me most was from parents who said they did not spank their child "right away." The child is told they are going to be spanked whilerepparttar 110702 parent goes somewhere else to "calm down" before doling outrepparttar 110703 dreaded punishment. Sorry, this one gives merepparttar 110704 willies. To me, this is a method of psychological torture. Imagining a small child, probably a toddler (or an adolescent reduced to a toddler's fears) in this situation tears at my heart. If I were a child, waiting patiently for a spanking, I think I would seriously consider running away. Why stick around for a parent who is going to come back, irrationally calm inrepparttar 110705 face of my utter terror, and let them hurt me? I do not think this is a good idea, no matter whatrepparttar 110706 circumstance. I would rather see a parent swat a kid onrepparttar 110707 butt from sheer frustration, as inrepparttar 110708 situation with a defiant child, than meditate on it a while and then dorepparttar 110709 deed. I'm sure I have just contradicted parenting advice many of you have heard by experts. These experts do not rate one inch in my life. I cannot imagine a competent child psychologist thinking that this is OK.

I am 100% committed to a no-spanking philosophy. I believe spanking will be outlawed in most countries within a few years. This practice has been a traditional tool of discipline for far too long.

Please, my dearest readers who do not share my opinion, I ask that you considerrepparttar 110710 alternatives. Many parents spank, simply for lack of a better solution. There are other solutions. It's not always easy, I know. Spanking is probablyrepparttar 110711 easiest method of momentarily whipping a child in line, however, if we are armed with alternate choices that really work, we will be better parents.

Rexanne Mancini is the mother of two daughters. She maintains an extensive yet informal parenting and family web site, Rexanne.com – http://www.rexanne.com -Visit her site for good advice, award-winning Internet holiday pages and some humor to help you cope. Subscribe to her free newsletter, Rexanne’s Web Review, for a monthly dose of Rexanne: http://www.rexanne.com/rwr-archives.html


We all wish that our Children have Good Virtues, but... are we setting a good example ourselves?

Written by Samir Jhaveri


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Don't use foul language in front of children. As I mentioned earlier, children try to imitate you. If you come across a reckless driver and let off steam be careful with your words. Your child is listening. Never ever use foul language with your spouse and don't abuse him / her, at least not in front of your children. I know, we all have our problems and married life (or any other life) isn't a bed of roses. But try to confine your fights to your bedroom and controlrepparttar decibel level unless you have a totally soundproof room. I have heard 3 year old children speakingrepparttar 110700 filthiest language, even if they probably don't know what they're speaking!

Never ever let go a child who stole something. Now, I'm not saying that if you found out that your child is stealing, jump on him or give him a tight slap. Don't even humiliate him with shame. But sternly explain him that this is not right and make it crystal clear that it is not permitted. If he has stolen from a store, go back with him and make him returnrepparttar 110701 item. If it is from school, make him return it torepparttar 110702 teacher to avoid him from public shame. Explain torepparttar 110703 teacher that you will be keeping an eye on him from repetition ofrepparttar 110704 act. Follow your promise religiously and keep a check on his possessions within his schoolbag, his cupboard, etc. Is there something he possesses that is not bought by you? If so, be firm in knowing from where he got it from and insist on returning it. Don't accept lies too easily, its as if you're condoningrepparttar 110705 theft. Also remember, don't keep money lying aroundrepparttar 110706 house even if you have money to burn. Make him understandrepparttar 110707 value of money. Maintain a limit on pocket money and encourage him to save. It is also time to think ifrepparttar 110708 child needs more affection and attention at home and a watch over his company. If all attempts fail, approach a child psychiatrist.

Television, movies, games and comics also play a vital role inrepparttar 110709 psychology ofrepparttar 110710 child. If he watches a lot of brutality, he may tend to act it out. Limitrepparttar 110711 time and type of programs he watches. Encourage him to watch productive programs suitable to his age. Although I don't watch television often, recently I have been watching some serials and was quite surprised that most of them were centered around scheming women with criminal minds. A very important thing you should do is be with your child when watching television. If there is a scene which you shouldn't want your child to see, distract him by asking him some question like "is your home work complete" and when he is looking at you, changerepparttar 110712 channel. If he insists to watch it, firmly tell him that it is not right for his age.

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