7. NATURE RED IN TOOTH AND CLAW.

It’s from a poem, okay, but that’s where you’re going to be. Don’t fantasize about how “romantic” place is; go take a look. Think realistically about beer bottles and cans on beach; getting lawn mowed and weeded; planting seasonal flowers; bugs, flies, snakes and spiders; sounds of barking dogs and (uninvited) children, or, for that matter these days, teen drugs dealers in park. Have a visit with your eyes open. Then do what you need to do, or resolve it’s “good enough” and don’t worry. The world of nature isn’t going to shut down just because it’s your wedding.

8. SAFETY ... ALL AGES

You’re in love. You’re planning your big day. However, you must limit things you have to worry about if you're going to enjoy yourself. A celebration in a park by a lake would be nice, or by pool at your aunt’s mansion, or even at beach, but in actuality, if there are going to be children there, and drinking … there’s also going to be chance for a real tragedy.

Which brings up – all ages will likely be there, and must be thought of. Can you really picture your great-grandmother standing in surf with her hair blowing, stepping over man-o-wars while picking sand out of her teeth … for long? Can kiddos go that long without a restroom? Many people can’t stand for a long time; others need protection from extreme heat and cold.

9. THE FOOD.

Can you say "health department?" Mayonnaise (and food items with that as an ingredient) can’t sit out in hot sun for more than an hour or so. Avoid perishable dishes. Wind can make it hard to get grill lit. Ice cream won’t do when it’s 90 degrees outside, nor will hot hors d’eouvres last long when it’s 50 degrees outside.

10. THE SUN, THE MOON AND THE STARS.

Yes, he promised you that … and you’ll be promising it to your guests, one way or another. Keep in mind sun moves through sky, and plan your event (and photographs) accordingly. One of most beautiful weddings I went to was planned at a hillside lodge, with we guests arriving just as sun was setting.

Hopefully you'll know where to turn when you've had enough of thinking in circles and getting nowhere. Start by reading product reviews, strategic development materials, and mapping out plan for your success.

What do you do next? You build your business. Those restless moments when you want desperately to call and beg him to come back are better used if applied to a productive aspect of building your enterprise.

Can't sleep? Then get to work on your marketing plan.

Why? Because you have to begin taking actions that empower and validate you ...the life you create for yourself. Focusing on your business is a way to begin working and focusing on your future, independent of self defeating relationships.

This approach to your recovery has many long term benefits. Chief among them, it helps you become oriented with concepts of relationship valuation that will enhance all of your future relationships, professional and personal.

With diligent conscious attention this can be an exercise in breaking old relationship patterns by creating a better relationship with yourself. Building your business is an investment in your future at most fundamental level. Attention to your material well being is a basic expression of self love when you intend it to be so.

This is why entrepreneurship works as an effective intervention. The pay off is obvious. Your business success is key to affording financial freedom and lifestyle you envision. Stop postponing your good until someone else shows up. You're already here and I know just where you can get started.