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Mind renewal is what it takes to get out of your own way. It is critical because whoever directs and controls your thinking is ultimately one who will direct and control your life. Don’t forget this important truth: How we choose to think affects how we feel; how we feel have significant influences on our desires; and our desires finally produce our actions.
Let use example of a woman who excuses her adultery on grounds that her husband was not “there” for her.
At front end of cognitive process were her negative thoughts about her husband not being there for her. Her negative self talk led to feel negatively towards her husband and she desired to punish him in some way which eventuated is her committing adultery (action).
Therefore, if you keep thinking negatively, you will keep yourself confused, hostile, discouraged, vengeful and depressed and so forth. You will be you own worst enemy. Always realize that battle is mental. Decide right now to develop a zero tolerance for chronic negativity.
Getting out of your own way is an “inside” job. It is of paramount importance that you develop a stance that is willing to set aside your own “justified” feelings, your own petty rights, your own frustrations, offenses, and anything that is not spiritually or emotionally edifying. This is something that is done on “inside.” This internal denying of ourselves is often much harder to do than denying ourselves “outwardly” (material things.), because it affects who we really are. It is our personhood, our soul and spirit, our being essence. It hurts to get out of our own way, especially when we believe we are “justified” (at least by world’s standards) in thinking and feeling way we do.
Transformation is opposite. The Greek word is “metamorphosis.” It means “an outward expression that comes from within.” When there has been an inward change, radical transformation that all can see.
The Apostle Paul didn’t leave us in dark. He said, “Do this by renewing of your mind.” That’s where battle is.
Final word: Get out of you own way!
Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D., is an ordained clergywoman, social worker, and Founder of AMEN Ministries. http://www.clergyservices4u.org She is also the author of two coffee table books: Room Beneath the Snow: Poems that Preach and Negative Disturbances: Homilies that Teach. Her new book, Out of Deep Waters: A Grief Healing Workbook, will be available soon.