4. Buckle up for Safety

Even safest drivers will occasionally have a fender bender, or may get side-swiped. However, they don't let occasional accidents or setbacks deter them from moving ahead. When difficulties appear, they focus on finding creative solutions. They consider setbacks to be learning experiences. They wear a mental "seat belt" by having plans for these circumstances. They also take adequate measures to insure and protect things they've worked to build. They assure future security for themselves and their loved ones.

5. Watch Road Signs

"Load limit, falling rocks, go, stop, yield, curve ahead, caution, speed limit," or similar signs are familiar to almost everyone. Road signs also tell how close we are to our destination, when we need to change lanes, or make a turn. They tell when other vehicles may be merging into our lane. Winners pay attention to similar signs as they work to fulfill projects and goals.

Winners are not simply "pipe dreamers." They stay in touch with reality of current circumstances to stay flexible, and measure progress. By watching signs, they can change course at earliest possible moment if they have made a wrong turn. They use signs along road to achievement as tools for life-long learning and improvement.

Before ever leaving driveway, we always know our intended destination, and reason for wanting to go there. However, trouble can occur in other areas when trying to move toward a vague notion of "success" without knowing exactly where that is. Defining a clear destination, and remembering these familiar driving precautions can help provide a safe and fulfilling journey to exciting new achievements.

With this profound awareness, property line dispute began to look like a gift. We were both awed at way things show up in life to offer valuable lessons.

What’s happening in your outer world that might point to an opportunity to learn something about yourself? Where are you crossing your own internal boundaries and projecting them as “problems” with world?

Here are a few suggestions to help you clarify your own boundaries:

1. Look for irritations in your own life. Where does it appear as if problem lies outside of you? Take a look at what boundaries you might want to set for yourself.

2. It’s often not enough to just “set” your boundary; you need to communicate it as well. What good is having a boundary if no one knows about it?

3. Ask for help in maintaining your boundaries or your commitments to yourself. Can you enlist support of a friend or loved one to help keep you on track?

4. Be flexible with your boundaries. Having a wall around you isn’t goal. The intention of boundaries is to remind yourself that you deserve what’s important to you.

As session came to a close my client knew what he needed to do, both inside and out. He was already seeing creative ways to address and resolve conflict with his neighbor as well as reinstate practices that kept him balanced and focused.

I could sense his relief in having boundary lines clear after many years of tension. He went on his way feeling better and looking forward to living what he learned. Not only do good fences make good literal neighbors, they make us good neighbors within our self as well.

It’s YOUR life…imagine possibilities!