The sooner two of you can face each other, without outside input or influence, better off you and relationship will be.

There usually is no reason to share new found information about cheating husbands or cheating wives with family, friends, children or spouse of other person. A concern about sexually transmitted diseases or health risks might be an exception. If it is important to share such information, do so without much fanfare or drama.

And of course, if you pursue legal action, any information obtained through spying is sometimes might be helpful to your attorney. Some “evidence” does carry weight in particular states or districts.

Isn’t it like game of hide-and-seek we used to play as children? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and a game is at least some contact, some involvement. You miss connection and try to find someway to maintain ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution to relationship. You want to know truth. You sense something does not fit. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are up against. You are not willing to stand pat and wait.

You are a person of action. You want some sort of movement. You want to get on with relationship. You want to get on with your life.

You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant that no one is talking about. You want to know truth, face truth, deal with truth and be free.