Single women are beginning to take country by storm, even on top hit show “Desperate Housewives” half of characters are single. Advertising companies are beginning to get it when it comes appealing to single woman. One commercial has two women who are sitting down after a wedding doing a high five for having “not” caught bridal bouquet. This message says that businesses are seeing that single women are a viable market. That is girl power that is about to be in full effect.

And more is never enough.

I don’t intend to get into a war of sexes game here by claiming that men “should” do more. My point is that The Big Holiday Question is an enemy of abundance. Anytime you are feeling overwhelmed with thoughts of all you “have to do” to prepare for dreaded upcoming holidays, you are not living in abundance. Driving yourself crazy with a massive holiday do-to list is a demonstration of lack rather than abundance.

Another Question

As a replacement for The Big Holiday Question, I offer you one of my favorite questions, “What is enough?” In another issue, I will tell why that question is so important to me. Right now, I offer you question to set you free from relentless demands of The Big Holiday Question, which never knows when to quit.

For example, instead of telling yourself that you have to bake ten kinds of holiday cookies, you could ask yourself, “What is enough?” You might decide that “enough” means baking only two kinds of Christmas cookies instead of ten. Or you could decide to skip baking cookies entirely this year. The question, “What is Enough?” changes equation. Instead of “trying” to do everything you think you “should,” you decide what enough means for you.

About time I began to notice The Big Holiday Question, I also made my own decision about holidays. I love holiday season. I love Christmas trees and sparkling lights. I love to buy presents for people I love. I decided that I would remain calm and peaceful in season, even if everyone else was going crazy around me. My own criterion for “What is enough?” question is, if I begin to feel even slightest bit frantic, I decide I have passed point of “Enough” into terrain of “Too Much.”

“Don’t worry about anything. Worrying never solved anything. All it does is distort your mind.” – Milton Garland

Enough

The truth is, feeling Abundantly Alive Now! never results from word “more.” This feeling results from word “enough.” Abundance means having enough to live joyously, calmly, and lovingly in present moment.

Ultimately, greatest harm done by The Big Holiday Question is that it diverts your attention from living fully in this moment and focuses it upon a future time. It is one thing to plan and prepare. It is another matter entirely to sacrifice only moment you have to live your life, which is this moment, to replace it with harried efforts to “Get ready for holidays.”