So what I call quick-draw, "shooting from lip" words or comments are opportunity killers. Although some try to fluff them off as just "misspeak" they are still irreversible disasters in making. "Of course if your language tools are limited and your verbal options are in short supply, you are just shooting blanks. Your verbal options probably need expanding. Learning and crafting your message with new, powerful and influential words and phrases is a must in our "you don't get a second chance to make a first impression" world.

WHY DO SMART PEOPLE SAY STUPID THINGS?

It's all about habit.

Somewhere in our past we heard our habitual pop-off comments and thought they were clever. We adopted them into our speech patterns. But what you thought was clever may sound mean or smart-aleck to others. That favorite expression so carelessly thrown out could live on to haunt you for life.

SO WHAT'S THE SOLUTION? As Mark Twain said "The secret to good conversation is leaving out wrong words."

So solution is simple, throw out old and replace with a verbal upgrade. Acquire new alternative ways of expressing yourself. Make your conversations so powerful others want to be with you and give you your way. You'll be surprised what you can get when you ask for it right way. Better words always make things better.

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The Author, Oscar Bruce is ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are considered field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations.

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The Author, Oscar Bruce is the ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are considered the field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations.

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About Melvin Lewis Thomas - I grew up in one of most beautiful places in world, Sedona, heart of Red Rock Country in Arizona.

My college education molded me as a scientist with things as my subjects. Working at medical and human research laboratories, and as a teacher, shifted my focus to people. Eventually I became a metascientist and life became my focus, with reality my laboratory. That path led to this book. Along way I changed jobs and even careers when what I was doing was no longer of interest. I grasped it, then moved on: stepping-stones in process of education; process never ends.

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