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Affirmation can be learned and practiced even if you feel it is not your personality to be so verbal about things you see. You can write notes, send cards and even use e-mail to call out best in others. How do you see best? Start with little things like, "I love way you helped that old gentlemen through door." Another example may be, "You are so good with making people feel comfortable around you." Begin to ask God for insight and revelation for people around you. You will have so much fun watching people respond to positive feedback from you. When you begin to love people in this way, it becomes addictive and it is not flattery. Afterall, God is same way with us if we just listen. He is our biggest cheerleader, and we don't have to depend on people, parents, friends or coworkers to affirm us. If we just listen, we can hear him cheering us on. Note: It is important to be truthful about positive things you say about others, otherwise it is flattery and that is unproductive. Love someone today by expressing to them something positive you see, and you will find yourself becoming a more influential person and a better leader.
Read next month's article called,
"Confrontation - The Life-Giving Way"
5 Practical Tips is "LEARNING TO AFFIRM"
1. Identify - Take time to think about someone and decide what you appreciate about them.
2. Specify - No generalizations, be to point.
3. Qualify - Communicate how they have made an impact in your life.
4. Amplify - Shine light on others in public, not just when you are alone.
5. Be Generous - Never take credit for things that you can give away. (Take every opportunity to relenquish or reward to someone else.)
*Don't forget to exercise this with family first! We have not been successful in anything if we have not been successful at home!
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Kathy Pedeaux is a graduate of Southwestern Assemblies of God Universtiy. Kathy holds a Masters Degree in Human Service Counseling and has 15 years of experience in helping people find direction, hope, and success in their lives. She is also a gifted speaker, teacher and worship leader that believes in helping people realize their dreams and destinies.