God’s plan for you...

God has a plan and it's not about pointless denial. His plan is first marriage and then sex after legal, spiritual and emotional commitment. When you create a list of rules for your kids, you do so to protect them, right? Well, God is no different. He loves you and wants to spare you unnecessary grief.

There is forgiveness....

If for whatever reason, you have engaged in a sexual relationship outside of marriage understand that God still loves you. Our blunders don't make Him love us any less. He desperately wants to put pieces of your life back together and make all things new again.

Living life "our way", guided by our emotions or feelings, always brings disappointment and shame. However, God specializes in such wounds. Allow Him to cleanse your pain and remove your guilt (read 1John 1:9). If you confess your sin, He WILL forgive it. He’s promised. The next and most crucial step is for you to forgive yourself.

Our children....

Our children rely on us to model appropriate moral standards. Most wise moms advise their teens to abstain from sex before marriage. We carefully explain to them dangers of sex "now a days". We share how abstinence protects us against sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Taking this into account, why should we want anything different for ourselves? Our children are growing up so fast. Our time with them is very precious. Let's not taint it recovering from unecessary love-related heartbreaks. Nothing is worse for children than to see their moms wounded, hurt, bitter and dejected.

My mother recently told me, (relative to my health) 'a good mother takes supreme care of herself for sake of her children'. I think same applies to emotional health. Don’t run risk of giving your body and soul away only to be left with an empty bed and broken heart. It really isn't worth it, single mom.

Teri Worten is a freelance writer and the founder of several inspirational websites for women and single moms. One is called Gotta Be Me, Girl.Com. You can access the site by following the link: http://www.gottabemegirl.com. Secondly, visit the Greater Kansas City Single Mom Network at http://www.kcsinglemomnetwork.com.

You also will see and feel wondrous things. You will grow towards these experiences as a flower grows towards sun. Each one will enrich and teach you. You will also know heartache. Loss and sorrow which I will strive to ease but cannot. When such things happen, my darling baby do not cocoon, thus shutting out world. Rather, let those who love you cry with you and share your pain.

Healing will come, gently on wings of gossamer.

These feelings I express will eventually be familiar to you. You will become a parent yourself and know and cherish and coo. Goodnight, my sweet one.

Goodbye, my baby. What dreams you held in palm of your tiny hand. What destinies. As time began your preparation for life you silently died. Already there was love between us. Now, unbearable sorrow. There will be no journey from womb to Earth. It was heavens that beckoned you. Fly away, my precious, fly away.

On gossamer wings.

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