Sex With Your Ex

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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Many of those divorced are saddened byrepparttar loss of their marriage and angry about all that has happened. Yet, they still have warm memories aboutrepparttar 126319 past and regrets about what might have been. The loneliness and depression you may feel following a divorce can wreak havoc on your mental state causing mixed emotions and an inability to make good choices.

Although sex with your ex may provide a temporary release, you must let go sexually as in other emotional ways in order to heal and grow. This wonít happen until you agree to stay out of each otherís beds. The old adage ďit ainít over until itís overĒ truly applies.

In addition, a continued sexual connection with your ex can be very confusing for your children. Seeing their parents continue an intimate relationship can be very detrimental to their adjustment torepparttar 126320 divorce. Children need stability and seeing this kind of relationship confuses them. It creates a ragged boundary and it may fuel their fantasy that their parents will reconcile.

If you do find you want to get back together, your bed is probably notrepparttar 126321 best place to work out your issues. If you are seriously considering trying again, reach out and get professional help to work outrepparttar 126322 problems that caused you to divorce inrepparttar 126323 first place.

If you are truly finished, stay alone in your own bed. You want to get it rightrepparttar 126324 next time round. You donít want to kissrepparttar 126325 frog again. This time you really want a prince or princess.

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.

Portions of this column first appeared in an interview of DR.D in an article by Kelly Gamble inrepparttar 126326 magazine Family Digest, Spring 2001.



Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.




The Death Of A Child

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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Many years ago, I lived across a pond from another young couple. Their three-year-old son wandered intorepparttar water and drowned. To this day, I can remember his mother's howls. Night after night, for a very long time animal-like shrieks of pain could be heard acrossrepparttar 126318 water. Yes, they went onto have more children and laughter returned, but, not easily and not soon.

And, last night my own daughter's car slid on black ice,repparttar 126319 car skidded, hit an embankment, and overturned. She walked away alive and barely bruised. She asked me why she was spared. I said I didn't know, but maybe there was a reason. She doesn't believe me yet. I only know, that this time I was one ofrepparttar 126320 lucky parents. I am deeply grateful, for I have lived long enough to know it is only for this time. Life is ephemeral and no one knows what lies aroundrepparttar 126321 next bend. So, take each blessing as you can.

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.



Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.




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