Self Suppression

Written by Robert Elias Najemy


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She had now moved into another extreme of behavior. She was defensive and uncooperative.

Gradually, Anna will realize that real freedom is found in giving out of love and not out of fear. When we give out of fear of rejection, we are not really giving but actually bartering whatever we are giving in exchange forrepparttar others? acceptance.

Real giving occurs when we know we are free not to give, but chose to give out of love forrepparttar 126279 others.

She will probably then say "Yes" aboutrepparttar 126280 same number of times she did inrepparttar 126281 past, but now she will be saying "Yes" out of freedom and not out of fear, and she will feel no pressure and will be happy.

How can she manage that? What could her lesson be?

Does she need to realize that she is lovable just as she is even when she cannot respond to what others ask of her?

Or does she need to learn to give as she does now, but out of love and not out of fear of rejection?

Does she need to learn to let others be responsible for their reality?

Or perhaps does she need to realize that she is worthy and lovable and good even when she is not a victim and attends to her own needs?

In this book, we will look into how we can determine what lessons Anna and many others might have to learn, how we can learn them, and how we can communicate more effectively.

(Adapted fromrepparttar 126282 forthcoming "Relationships of Conscious Love" by Robert Elias Najemy. His book "The Psychology of Happiness" (ISBN 0-9710116-0-5) is available at http://www.amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. His writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.

Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies. He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members. His book The Psychology of Happiness; ISBN 0-9710116-0-5 is available at www.amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. where you can view and download FREE articles and e-books.


The Roles of Parent, Savior, Teacher and Super-responsible

Written by Robert Elias Najemy


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1: We are all is 100% responsible for our own reality. 2: We are all guided from within. 3: The others are totally responsible forrepparttar reality they create. 4. My self-worth is totally independent of what is happening with others. 5. My self-worth is independent of other people?s ability to trust me or not. 6. I am responsible only for my efforts and not forrepparttar 126278 results of my efforts. 7. I deserve love and respect exactly as I am. 8. I trust others andrepparttar 126279 Divine. 9. I feel united with others when I share my weaknesses and faults with them. 10. I am worthy of love and respect because of my being, not because of any role I play.

Those around Anthony can:

1. Understand that he is seeking his self-worth and inner security by playing this role. 2. Take responsibility for their own reality. 3. Lovingly refuse to allow him to overwhelm them and take control of their own lives. 4. Lovingly assert their need to take responsibility for their own decisions and acceptrepparttar 126280 consequences of those decisions.

(Adapted fromrepparttar 126281 "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available at http://www.Amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. This book and other writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.)

Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies. He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members. His book The Psychology of Happiness; ISBN 0-9710116-0-5 is available at www.amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. where you can view and download FREE articles and e-books.


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