Seeking Ideal BeautyWritten by Jeannine Schenewerk
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These were commonly accepted 'beauty' practices, of women over four hundred years ago, and yet, how 'in moment', it all seems! We may not use mercury for chemical peels, but glycolic acid, salicylic acid, or lactic acid; trichloroacetic acid (TCA), or carbolic acid (phenol) - are used. We don't spread raw egg white on our complexions as a temporary skin firmer, but modern women may be surprised to learn, they could very well have used 'skin firmers' containing formaldehyde. We may gasp in horror over sixteenth century women applying poison to their faces; yet, Botox injections seem perfectly mundane, and safe, to us. What were long-term results of use of their miracle beauty and facial products, for classy Elizabethan lady? Complexions more rapidly aged, gray, shriveled, and mummified. When I read of young women still in their twenties, opting for ‘beauty treatments’ that require they have their complexions chemically treated, or otherwise ravaged, I am appalled. I can only wonder at long-term effects of such drastic measures. Mature women, obsessed with seeking some elusive anti-aging/age-reversal miracle, become nothing more than willing test-subjects for any new facial product/procedure that hits market. Often, they have no idea as to ingredients in products they are smearing on their faces. Nor, do they take into consideration future effects of certain procedures. Perhaps, we modern women should consider lessons of past, and proceed with caution, and common sense, when choosing our ‘beauty’ regimens. Author-Jeannine Schenewerk http://www.intouchwithjeannine.com
Jeannine Schenewerk is a freelance writer residing in Atlanta, Georgia. Her recent article, 'Self Image and the Mature Woman', has been published on numerous sites. She maintains an informative, inspirational, website, 'In Touch With Jeannine', for mature women. http://www.intouchwithjeannine.com intouchwithjeannine@yahoo.com
| | Why Won’t He Listen!Written by Carol M. Welsh
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See and listen:Through your ears. Can concentrate better if you turn your ear toward speaker and take notes.Through your feelings. Absorb feelings behind words. What they say is not as important as how they say it. With your eyes–eye contact important. No-tice “what’s wrong” with picture or scene. Can hear/feel/see what others are expressing. Quickly perceive whole picture–may jump to conclusions. How you…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic Learn:By thinking through ideas and facts until you understand. By doing and practicing until it’s done correctly.By looking at illustra-tions, step-by-step pic-tures, demonstrations.By identifying “gist” of something, then trying it out. How you…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic Approach sex and romance:Foreplay not very important. May lack passion, sex may be mostly mechanical. Afterward, might ask if it was “good.” Foreplay is everything: cuddling, flirting, laughter, gentle wordsWant to feel cherishedA sharp, ugly word will ruin it.Setting scene, romantic foreplay, may be more important than final act. It’s “making love” rather than just sex.Creative, passionate lovers. Like to be flexible, according to mood. Like spontaneous sex ReactionsMeHimMeHimMeHimMeHim Your initial…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic You’re your hot button is pushed, your initial reaction is driven by:ANGER: shown asimpatience, sarcasm, explosive temper, take suggestions as criti-cisms, exert pressure but can’t take it–“get off my back.”INDIGNATION: get stuck emotionally – can’t let go, martyr, vacillate between blaming others and feeling guilty, feel unappreciated, cry.FRUSTRATION: feel justified to point out faults of others if dis-appointed, easily hurt by criticism, self-critical–withdraw, use “silent treatment.”RESENTMENT: be-come moody, irritable, impose your opinion, meddlesome/manipu-lative, point out other’s defects to justify your own behavior. MeHimMeHimMeHimMeHim Total Scores:Audio FeelerVisualWholisticThe highest score is your primary perception, which has strongest influence on how you respond to other people’s actions or reactions. If you want him to listen, change how you approach him based on his style. Finally, to get him to remember what you tell him, it needs to be important to him – how does this information affect him? If it’s simply information, he might not remember to pick up laundry. But if it’s suit he is going to wear to party that night, be sure to express that. Otherwise, he needs reminder notes just like we do.
Carol Welsh, M.S. is the author of “Stop When You See Red.” She has over 25 years experience as a speaker and is a frequent guest on talk shows. Website is www.stopred.com.
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