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These steps will help you resist your own tendency to try to be a hero by solving someone else’s problem, usually before they even ask for your help. This game usually starts by someone lamenting about a problem instead of asking for help to solve it.
The invitation you are learning to decline is really about proving that problem is unsolvable, that nobody can help, and that problem holder is justified in giving up and doing nothing further about problem.
Instead, you affirm problem holder’s skill and resourcefulness, without getting involved in game. And you may become hero after all.
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Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., author of Dare To Say It!, is an internationally known executive coach, psychotherapist, and author. For more simple secrets for turning difficult conversations into amazing opportunities for cooperation and success, visit http://www.DareToSayIt.com or email: feedback@laurieweiss.com