When you do get to that place that you are able to really focus on someone else and you're truly ready to fall in love, then there's some other things to consider. It's only natural that each of our relationships shapes us and effects who we become on some level. How many of us have little quirks that arose due to past loves? Perhaps you were with someone abusive and now every time someone even raises their voice during an argument, red flags start going off and you start panicking. Perhaps you worked your tail off day and night to financially support a high maintenance princess and now you shutter every time your new girlfriend talks about needing more money to pay utilities. Perhaps your partner forced you into sexual acts that weren't in your best interest and now you have some hang ups in bedroom. These are all very natural and normal reactions. We are adaptable creatures that typically learn from our mistakes and try to not repeat bad circumstances. So why wouldn't we be cautious in future? I'm simply suggesting that you sit with these thoughts for a while and make sure that you are not being unfair to your new partner. Are you punishing them for things that your ex did to you? Are you living your life as though new person is exactly same as old one? Are you unconsciously creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and forcing your new partner to play out a role that your spouse played? Just look at these things and be aware. It can really make difference between repeating another bad marriage and having a successful second chance at love.

One last thought which is sort of flip side to one just mentioned. Sometimes we don't realize that we try to repeat good things from our old relationship with new partner. For example, taking them on exact same romantic weekend and trying to relive wonder of first time with first partner. Sometimes we don't realize that we make unfair comparisons, "Well my first wife always had my dinner on table when I came home." "Well my first husband knew how to fix car so that we didn't have to pay a mechanic to do it." Don't look to recreate first marriage. Instead, remember that this is a unique and different relationship with a unique and different partner. Love them for who they are.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge

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Pretty Good! You are a Financially-Striving Woman. You've started to grasp how important it is for women to be in control of their finances. However, you may not be saving enough to meet your financial goals. Take this opportunity to make sure you are saving enough for retirement and your other financial needs for future. Ask yourself, am I living life of my dreams? If not, think about what’s holding you back. Come to www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=54 to receive a free Special Report, The Top Five Reasons Why Most Women Aren’t Wealthy and How You Can Change That, from Cynthia Fick, expert financial planner, outlining tips to reach your short and long term goals. You can also register for a FREE 60-minute Teleclass entitled, “Wise Women Are Rich: Three Secrets to Creating Wealth.” Cynthia Fick and Founder of Coaching from Spirit, Sharon Wilson will teach you simple strategies to create more financial security and more prosperity. To register come to htp://www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=24

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You are a Financially-Naieve Woman. You have a bit to learn about your finances, but don't despair! Many women are in your situation. Just because you lack financial experience doesn't mean you lack an ability to create wealth. Look at your beliefs about money and stories your family had about money when you were growing up to see if they empower you financially. You also may want to ask yourself if you are clear on what you want in your life financially. If you are not where you want to be financially, why not? Come to www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=54 to receive a free Special Report, The Top Five Reasons Why Most Women Aren’t Wealthy and How You Can Change That, from Cynthia Fick, expert financial planner. This free report lays out an easy to understand process to develop financial security and prosperity. You can also register for a FREE 60-minute Teleclass entitled, “Wise Women Are Rich: Three Secrets to Creating Wealth.” Cynthia Fick and Founder of Coaching from Spirit, Sharon Wilson will teach you simple strategies to create more financial security and more prosperity. To register come to htp://www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=24

Remember: Financial security is different from financial happiness. Every woman can have both. Make an effort to learn more about financial planning and, with help of a financial advisor or financial coach, go over your portfolio to ensure that you're investing to help meet your short- and long-term goals. If you are motivated to take control of your financial future, come to www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=54 to receive a free Special Report, The Top Five Reasons Why Most Women Aren’t Wealthy and How You Can Change That, from Cynthia Fick, expert financial planner. You can also register for a FREE 60-minute Teleclass entitled, “Wise Women Are Rich: Three Secrets to Creating Wealth.” Cynthia Fick and Founder of Coaching from Spirit, Sharon Wilson will teach you simple strategies to create more financial security and more prosperity. To register come to htp://www.coachingfromspirit.com/rd.cfm?id=24

Cynthia Fick is the lead partner of Financial Life Planners, LLC. She is a Registered Investment Advisory and has extensive knowledge and training in a broad range of investments including stocks, bonds, stock options and mutual funds.  She is an expert in Financial and Retirement Planning as well as Tax and Estate Planning.