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bride and/or groom are often a part of second marriages. If either of you has children, invite them to participate in ceremony.
Teens make nice junior ushers and junior bridesmaids. Very young daughters can, of course, be flower girls, and little boys, ring bearers or pages. Conversely, if ceremony is to be small or ages of children would make them unsuitable for these roles, you might simply ask them to accompany you down isle, or meet you at altar.
Children do not always welcome opportunity to participate in wedding ceremonies. If you children seem unwilling to play a role in ceremony, you should respect their feelings. Incidentally, if you share custody with your ex-husband, let him know about plans to include your children in ceremony.
Inviting your ex-husband and former in-laws
If you and your former in-laws are still on good terms, you may want to invite them. However, you are under no obligation to do so. Consider this as nothing more than a formality since they would not be expected to accept.
Rarely would an ex-spouse be invited to ceremony, even if two of you have remained friends. Think about it. Inviting your ex-spouse to ceremony leaves him with only two choices, neither of which would be welcomed: accepting and feeling bad or declining and looking bad.
A more sensible and considerate approach would be to invite him to a private dinner, perhaps at your home, after ceremony and honeymoon.
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