Say I Don't Know

Written by Steve Gillman

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He may not understand, but he learns quickly to explain himself. By adulthood, it is rare for any of us to say "I don't know" when asked about our behavior. There is a problem with that, though. How can we ever learnrepparttar true causes if we already accept our explanations?

Accepting Our Ignorance

A better way to approach these issues is to get inrepparttar 142250 habit of saying "I don't know." You can follow it with "Maybe it's because of..." and letrepparttar 142251 explanations spill out, but don't be too quick to accept any of them. Understand that it isn't always necessary to explain.

For example, even if you never know why you avoid a certain person, isn't it better to leaverepparttar 142252 question open than to accept a false explanation based on a habit of self-justification? Leave questions unanswered, and you may someday have a better understanding. Quick answers mean a quick stop in your thinking.

Self-explanation can berepparttar 142253 death of self-understanding. Learn to accept your ignorance, and to keep observing yourself. Just say, "I don't know."

Steve Gillman writes on many self help topics including boosting brainpower, losing weight, meditation, habits of mind, creative problem solving, learning gratitude, generating luck and anything related to self improvement. You'll find more at

Success Through Authenticity: Harness Your “Innie” Natural Edge

Written by Sarah Dolliver

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If you’ve made it completely through these steps, you are ready to go torepparttar fourth and final step. If confusion or uncertainty still exists, marinate a little longer inrepparttar 142228 first three steps, especially self-acceptance.

4) Clear intention followed by focused action: Now isrepparttar 142229 time to modify your thoughts, actions and words for a positive outcome! You know exactly what to do now. It is compelling and you act without hesitation. You alterrepparttar 142230 way you show up inrepparttar 142231 world, which in turn modifiesrepparttar 142232 response you get.

This is a self-generating process, because as you feelrepparttar 142233 high you get from step four, you are eager about going back torepparttar 142234 start and do it once more around a new issue. It gives yourepparttar 142235 thrill to keep going!

Honor your own “square-peggedness” by being who you truly are! It will transform your life into one of ease and joy.

Sarah Dolliver is a catalyst and guide for inner-directed individuals (those who focus inward to restore). As founder and host of InnerVantage, she partners with “innies” to educate, inspire and empower them to share their gifts, talents and strengths with the world. Visit her online at

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