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I have witnessed other parents go through a variety of reactions to their baby’s or toddler’s wandering hands, from actually hitting a child for innocently touching their genitals to a mortified: “How could you?!” Gee, how could they NOT? Come on ... they’re babies, they’re exploring
world and themselves. Where is
shame, guilt or horror in this? Only in parent’s and other adult minds, that’s where. How on earth would a baby or young toddler assume that touching a part of their being is bad, evil, shameful or humiliating unless their significant care taker tells them so, whether in words, actions or obvious distress over
situation?
This brings us to
probable conclusion that our kids will grow into adults feeling ashamed, guilty and weird about their sexuality if we, as their predominant instructors of life, teach them to feel bad about their natural curiosity.
I certainly understand that some adults are just not comfortable with this parenting issue or, down
line, discussing sex in a logical and rational way with their questioning adolescents. A good plan would be to enlist
help and guidance of a trusted family member or
child’s pediatrician. Better yet, parents who feel uncomfortable should discuss this with their own doctor, trusted friend or family member and then have a back up plan to deal with
issue when it arises, which it most definitely will.

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