10. TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS - 76 telltale signs Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone. These telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find. Many men take risk of calling their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home. Many wives (like me) discover their husband’s infidelity either directly or indirectly by telephone.

11. CAR CLUES - 40 telltale signs Your husband’s (or family) car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats (underneath and between), tire well, underside of visor, ashtray, side pockets or compartments, under floor mats and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information.

12. SEX - 37 telltale signs Be alert for any type of changes in frequency or quality of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect your husband of having an affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk for HIV/AIDS, herpes or e other sexually transmitted diseases.

13. EATING HABITS - 31 telltale signs This is an area that wives usually overlook when checking for telltale signs. But your husband’s eating habits can be influenced or affected by his lover. Without even realizing it, he may develop a preference for type of food she eats, way she likes her food prepared or kind of restaurants in which she likes to eat. These are types of telltale signs it would never occur to him to conceal.

14. SMELLS AND TASTES - 21 telltale signs Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. You may be oblivious to it until it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if your husband smells or tastes “different,” or if something in your home or car just doesn’t smell “right.” It may warrant closer investigation.

15. INVASION OF YOUR HOME - 22 telltale signs It's not uncommon for a man who's cheating to invite his lover to his home. When this happens, it’s not unheard of for lovers to leave personal items behind--sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting wife to find. You will usually find evidence in your bedroom or bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you were away. But telltale signs of infidelity may turn up in other areas of your home, as well.

16. GIFTS - 19 telltale signs Be especially vigilant around times of year when gifts are usually exchanged. During holidays and various other times throughout year, you may find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in car. Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.

17. COMPUTER USE - 30 telltale signs It’s common these days for a cheating husband to use e-mail to communicate with his lover. Some of telltale signs in this category may also be an indication of his involvement in an online or cyber affair. Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your marriage as real thing. Though they may not involve sexual contact, emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.

18. CELL PHONES AND PAGERS/BEEPERS - 28 telltale signs Today’s technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat on his wife. But it’s also easier for a husband to get caught while trying to make contact or stay in touch with his lover.

19. PHYSICAL EVIDENCE - 32 telltale signs Many times there’s physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check your husband’s wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser drawers, wastepaper basket, his closet shelves, floor in back of his closet, garage, his study, filing cabinets, his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can think of. Keep your eyes open. You’ll be surprised at kinds of physical evidence of infidelity you can find.

20. HIS BEHAVIOR AROUND OTHER WOMEN - 71 telltale signs Studies show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone he already knows—a woman he comes in contact with on a regular basis – a neighbor, a coworker, a family friend or business associate. If you’re observant, you may be able to determine identity of your husband’s lover by way he behaves in her presence, or by how she behaves around him.

21. ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES - 57 telltale signs Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been up to by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An accidental slip-up on his part or on part of someone else can clue you in to what’s been happening behind your back.

Excerpts taken from "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs" For more information visit www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com

© 2004 Ruth Houston All rights reserved.

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Since right-brained people are more flexible, if you’re right-brained, you may need to accommodate to left-brained people with whom you work. That’s just way it works. Whatever it takes to get a project done, right?

TAKE THE TEST

Here’s a test to see if you understand difference. Which “brain dominant” is talking in each of these examples, “right” or “left”?

1.First you put a cup of flour in a bowl. Then you add a teaspoon of salt. Then you cut in a cup of shortening. Right or Left? 2.Mix up some flour and salt and shortening in a bowl. A cup or 2 of flour, some salt. Right or Left? 3.The first step is to do some general market research so you can get big picture. Right or Left? 4.The first step is to write down your goals and objectives. Then do a timeline. Then do an accountability chart. Then do a budget. Then call me. Right or Left? 5.No one ever accomplished anything without a dream. Right or Left? 6.No one ever accomplished anything without a plan and a lot of hard work. It’s in details. Right or Left? 7.Personal hygiene means brushing your teeth, washing your hair, putting on deodorant, and wearing clean clothes. Right or Left? 8.Personal hygiene means keeping yourself clean. Right or Left? 9.You’re driving me nuts with details. Just give me ballpark figures. Right or Left? 10.Making a business projection is like throwing a dart at a board. You can’t predict what’s going to happen. Right or Left? 11. Stop yelling at me. It isn’t what you say, it’s way that you say it. Right or Left? 12.Will you stop jumping around and tell me what you do one step at a time, please? Start at beginning and go one by one. Right or Left? 13.Yes, I’d like to hear what’s bothering you. Start anywhere you like. Right or Left? 14.I don’t care what figures indicate. I’m going with my gut instinct. Right or Left? 15.Draw me a picture. I can’t figure out what heck you’re talking about. Right or Left? 16.I want a flow chart. I want to know hierarchy and sequence of events, and I want a logical explanation for each step. Right or Left? 17.I can’t concentrate. It’s too quiet in here. Right or Left? 18.Help me figure out who Ben Adams is. I know he’s here because he’s CFO, but I can’t remember what he looks like. 19.I know that guy over there. I saw him last week at Rotary. But what’s his name? Right or Left?

ANSWERS: Right – 2, 3, 5, 8, 9, 10, 11, 13, 14, 15, 17, and 19.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Emotional Intelligence means understanding how brain works, how we process information, how to manage emotions, and how to communicate better. When you study EQ, your problem-solving skills, teamwork, leadership and interpersonal skills will improve, as well as your resilience. You’ll function better at work and at home, with better relationships, and better health. You’ll be more effective, more efficient, and you’ll handle stress better.

Take an EQ assessment: http:/ inyurl.com/z94t . Then take The EQ Foundation Course, which is on Internet and interactive. Then work with a certified emotional intelligence coach. EQ is not something you can “just” read about.

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