Rules for the Worldly Woman Warrior in All of Us

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Inner Strength and The Power of Optimism

A dear friend of mine dated a man she was crazy about for five years. She confessed to me that she shared her secrets and her soul with him. She had trusted beyond belief. When it came time forrepparttar big one -- commitment -- he lookedrepparttar 131143 other way. Why? Because that day, he didnít likerepparttar 131144 weather. My reaction? I thought it was a wonderful stroke of luck for her. Had he maderepparttar 131145 commitment she thought she was ready for, she would have gone off intorepparttar 131146 sunset with him and settled for someone who was nowhere near her equal. This strength and ability to pull on optimism in what seemed like a very dark moment carried her through torepparttar 131147 point of looking at new possibilities in a whole new light. A light that shined a bright new future on her.

The whole incident became a meaningful signal to redirect her life. And she did. Sometimes, not getting what you want can make you fearless in getting what you need. Furthermore, a disaster that blindsides us typically provides a moment to rid ourselves of all our mistakes and begin anew. Donít let emotions cloud your judgment. Itís clear this friend of mine is not one ofrepparttar 131148 good girls. With optimism like this, she will pull ahead. Sheís a bad girl.

To Compromise or Not to Compromise?

Make a shameful or disreputable concession? Awe, come now, do you want to remain a good girl? Go ahead. Us bad girls will ride our Harleys full-throttle and leave you inrepparttar 131149 dust, because a concession isrepparttar 131150 same as a compromise. And with too many compromises, you lose focus.

Inrepparttar 131151 line of fire, never compromise. Good girls compromise. Bad girls donít. So you wanna be a Ďsexyí brain surgeon? Get started. Stick to your guns. Know what you want. Have a clear mental picture of your target. Then fire. Eliminaterepparttar 131152 getting ready and aiming part. Thatís tedious. Besides, who hasrepparttar 131153 time? If you miss your target, fire again. The point is to just keep firing until you get what you want. Stay on course with your conviction and vision. Itís so very simple, you boring good girls. Why canít you listen to us bad girls?

And, for all you bad girls, if you absolutely must compromise -- go ahead -- but remember whoís in charge: YOU. Donít sacrifice your soul, for your soul carries you through to your destiny. Did you get that? Soul. Pure. Simple. Lock it up. Throw awayrepparttar 131154 key. Itís yours, and only yours, for keeps.

Donít Sit onrepparttar 131155 Sidelines -- Feel Good About Yourself and Get Out There

How can you possibly conquerrepparttar 131156 world if you donít feel good about yourself? Overcomerepparttar 131157 urge to sit back onrepparttar 131158 sidelines and be a good-girl, just observing because youíre afraid to say whatís on your mind. Donít worry about sayingrepparttar 131159 wrong thing. Whatís a wrong thing? And, who said so? Do you care?

Also, be willing to fail. Know itís a possibility. Look it inrepparttar 131160 eye. Conquer it. And then, move on. Inrepparttar 131161 process, figure yourself out because that is your single greatest gift and most powerful lifeforce. Grow or get lost. And if you should decide to drop out or disappear, even for a moment, thereís no chance you will ever become a true leader. Fight with all your might to be and promote your real self. Exude confidence and dare to be different. Always. Constantly. No variance. Be a bad girl.

Relishing Risk

One good girlís timidity is another bad girlís big win, but that victory will not come unless a calculated risk is involved. True risk -- that sudden leap intorepparttar 131162 unknown -- can carry you into a state of nirvana. Do whatís unconventional, disconcerting or unexpected. Take a chance. Take a risk. And keep taking them -- thatís how you learn, grow, rediscover and develop. Bad girls who are creative, innovative, transformative, experimental and visionary absolutely take risks in order to earn their much-deserved rewards. Strive everyday to do OOT -- one outrageous thing. If you feel perspiration beading high on your forehead, then you know youíre onto OOT. Be eager to test what works. The whole point is to take yourself in a new direction and succeed.

Thrive [or Die], You Bad Girl!

Create your own opportunities. Explore and make your deepest BIG dreams become a reality. Even if you lack support, embrace who you are. Own, honor, utilize and validate your innate gifts. Pay attention to your integrity and go out there and unfold your destiny that flows from character and live a life filled with surprises. Move fast. Haverepparttar 131163 fury ofrepparttar 131164 wind behind you. Create a sense of urgency. Use your gifts to achieve success. Soar to greatness. Set yourself up to survive at an optimum level in your life and enjoy your exciting and rewarding journey to mastering your own life. Be a bad girl.

Laurel Delaney, at ldelaney@globetrade. She runs a Chicago-based global marketing, consulting and web content providing company aimed toward entrepreneurs and small businesses. She serves as Director of International Development for, a global funding community that facilitates education and interaction between entrepreneurs and investors. Visit her temporary web site at:

8 Lessons for Businesswomen Racing to Build a New World

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5). Unearth your potential.

Seabiscuit learned to trust his trainer and rider, and this becamerepparttar foundation for their relationship. What happened as a result? His love of running returned. So long as he was treated like a gentleman, he'd run his heart out. He acquired cool confidence. He was a new horse. Seabiscuit finally understoodrepparttar 131141 game. His trainer and rider had "unearthed him."

Women want to be "unearthed" too. Put trust and faith in her hands and she will develop an undying spirit that leads to victory.

6). Intimidate all.

As Hillenbrand's book states, "Where other horses relied solely on speed to win, Seabiscuit used intimidation." Women should too.

7). Saverepparttar 131142 last reserve of courage forrepparttar 131143 end.

Hillenbrand wrote, "If he [Seabiscuit] became too absorbed in rubbing a particular horse's nose in his defeat, he risked being unable to regain his momentum whenrepparttar 131144 closers came after him. Fortunately, though taunting was one of Seabiscuit's greatest pleasures, once he was challenged,repparttar 131145 games ended. In a fight he was all business. 'Did you ever see two stallions fight?' Seabiscuit's trainer Smith asked. 'They look about evenly matched -- most times they are -- but one of 'em has that last reserve of courage and energy which licksrepparttar 131146 other. Seabiscuit has it.'" Women do too. Preserve it and pull it out atrepparttar 131147 end.

8). Stake a claim on being unbeaten and unchallenged.

Many great racehorses from Seabiscuit to Seattle Slew to Secretariat all had something in common. They each hadrepparttar 131148 desire to stake a claim on being unbeaten and unchallenged throughoutrepparttar 131149 course of their careers. Women must dorepparttar 131150 same. We must speak up and haverepparttar 131151 good horse sense to own our way in life. Just like a world-class racehorse, you are going to fight your way through torepparttar 131152 winner's circle. In doing so, businesswomen will winrepparttar 131153 race to building a new world.

Laurel Delaney runs a Chicago-based global marketing, consulting and web content providing company aimed toward entrepreneurs and small businesses. She is currently at work on, "Women Entrepreneurs Take On The World," to be published fall, 2002. She can be reached at

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