Now, blackjack is your game of choice, so let me illustrate your possible control. You could, when dealer asks you to cut cards, place divider at very end, thinking this will stack hands in your favor. You could change tables because one dealer is what you would call bad luck. The fact is that once you put your money down, you lose control of situation.

The dealer will deal you a winning or losing hand and you simply have no control over situation, yet you might try to seize control by many illogical means in attempts to win.

By not attempting to control everyone else, you come to an understanding that letting people live their lives in peace without your controlling ways, is healthiest way in going about your relationships.

Others will detect a distinct difference in your personality and certainly appreciate you, rather than resent your ill will. This is, again, a change in approach and attitude towards others that will need to be worked on everyday. In addition, one should want and need to see progression everyday to confirm diminishing of this toxic characteristic.

Let go of your need to always control and manipulate, it will definitely become a more harmonious existence, not only for others, but for yourself.

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A challenge is like a contest or a test. It brings out your competitive nature, it inspires action and most importantly a challenge is a contest you can win!

A Problem is 800LB of emotional baggage. A Challenge is an Opportunity to enrich your life.

Remember what I said about mind/body connection? Which phrase makes you feel more uncomfortable: "serious money problems" or "financial challenges?"

Whenever you hit next bump in road you have a choice: Fill your self with needless stress and anxiety and welcome a new "problem" into your life, or you can say-"Yes! I accept challenge. I accept opportunity to improve myself, to strengthen my self-confidence, to grow from experience and banish fears of unexpected change."

Life is change. Change can be awkward sometimes. We like to stay with familiar by nature. When we resist life's changes we plant seeds of problems. If we face our challenges we find fewer things to resist. We find ourselves in "flow" of life and not caught up in a snag.

This one simple word swap has brought me a bucketful of peace of mind. I get stronger with every obstacle I surmount.

This might work for you, If you try. The question is: Are you up for a challenge?

-David Parton Copyright 2005

David Parton:

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