Resilience: An Emotional Intelligence Competency We Need Today

Written by Susan Dunn, M.A.

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1. They are reflective, able to look back on experiences and extractrepparttar kernels of wisdom from them. 2. They don't back off from realisty, but face it squarely, labeling things for what they are--setbacks, losses, disappointments. 3. They know their feelings, label them correctly, and express them fluently and routinely to others. 4. They are able to separate timezones--past from present from future. 5. They commit torepparttar 131285 agony of grieving for as long as it takes. 6. They find meaning and purpose in their struggles, knowing that they will benefit inrepparttar 131286 end by a greater understanding ofrepparttar 131287 fundamentals of live. 7. They have a high EQ, including being able to think flexibly and creatively under stress. They expand rather than shut down when faced with a challenge. 8. They keep a reserve of energy built up through regular periods of rest and renewal. 9. They have a strong network of individuals they can depend upon, and who know and accept them as they are.

Susan Dunn is an emotional intelligence coach. YOu can visit her on the web at:

It Ain't Over Til Its Begun Again!

Written by Susan Dunn, M.A.

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And then once they're strengths, they need to be practiced, applied, used. Action must be taken. Another beginning. Just exactly when do we get to rest on our laurels??

"Don't worry about your problems with mathematics," said Einstein. "I can assure you that mine are far greater." No rest forrepparttar weary.

The gifted poet John Berryman wrote a profound poem about 'the end of strengths' which I felt moved to illustrate (URL: rainer.htm) It's about a proficient animal trainer who's in burn out. He's used his natural talents and strengths ... too long? too hard? too often? without balance? without adequate support? But that's a whole 'nother story, burn out, and there we have orouborus again: some clients can recycle from burn-out. For others, it's too late.

Understandingrepparttar 131283 endless cycle of beginnings and endings is part of adjusting torepparttar 131284 constancy of change in our lives.

Susan Dunn is a coach for personal and professional development, focusing on strengths, emotional intelligence and life balance. Visit her on the web at

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