Fortunately, her hometown police were able to track child down and return her wedding ring without too much trouble.

But what if you’re not so lucky?

Sometime wedding rings slip off and become lost down drainpipes, sewers, on public transportation, while walking in park, while on vacation, etc.

For someone who’s lost their wedding ring, it’s often a heart-wrenching experience. Because a wedding ring represents a lifetime commitment between you and your mate, it may feel like you’ve lost something irreplaceable. After all, that’s ring that was slipped on your finger when you said “I do.”

While it’s true that emotional attachment that you feel for your original ring will always be with you in your heart, at some point, you’ll probably feel need to purchase another wedding ring to continue honoring your marriage and partnership.

Buying a new wedding ring may even be cathartic. You and your partner could have a little celebration after you buy your new wedding ring just to reaffirm that sweet romance you still feel for each other can never be lost.

Samantha’s intention was to have control over getting what she wanted. She equates an expensive vacation with love – if Jason does this for her, then he proves his love for her. She used her anger as a way to have control over getting what she wants. She wants control over feeling special to Jason.

Jason’s intention is to avoid pain. He gave himself up to have control over Samantha not being angry with him. He hopes that by giving Samantha what she wants, she will see him as a good and loving husband.

However, because both Jason and Samantha were trying to control each other rather than be loving to themselves and each other, their interaction created emotional distance.

What would this have looked like if their intention had been to learn?

If Samantha’s intent had been to learn, she would not have become angry. Instead, she would have wanted to understand Jason’s objections. If Jason’s intention had been to learn, he would not have given himself up. Instead he would have wanted to understand why this particular vacation was so important to Samantha. Both Samantha and Jason would have been caring about themselves and each other, rather than wanting to get love or avoid pain. In their mutual exploration about why they each felt way they did, they would have learned what they needed to learn - about themselves and each other - to reach a win-win resolution. Instead of Samantha ostensibly winning and Jason losing, they would have come up with something both of them could live with. With some exploration of his financial fears, Jason might have decided that vacation Samantha wanted would be fine. With understand of Jason’s financial concerns, Samantha might have decided on a less expensive vacation. In either case, both of them would have felt fine about outcome.

No matter how much Jason and Samantha have in common or are attracted to each other, their love will diminish when their intent is to control rather than learn. It’s amazing how quickly love vanishes when one or both partners have intent to control. It’s equally amazing how fast it comes back when both partners have intent to learn.