1 2 3Our fights do not escalate to point of pushing and slapping.

1 2 3I feel fulfilled and not lonely in relationship. 1 2 3We can argue without using threats of divorce or abandonment.

Now add up your points and assess your score:_______

36 to 42 "Copasetic" If your score is in 36 to 42 range, your relationship is in great shape. You are very fortunate to be in this category, so keep up good work. You and your partner are a good match, and likelihood of long-term success for your relationship is high. Everything may be copasetic now, but don't get complacent. Continue to be open, honest, and involved with each other.

26 to 35 "Caution" If your score is in 26 to 35 range, then caution light is on. It's probably time to take a serious look at direction your relationship is taking. There are obviously some very positive aspects of your relationship that are worth preserving and reinforcing. Your long-term success is in question now. It's time to work on those respect and communication issues. Take note of questions that scored 1's and 2's and talk about them.

14 to 25 "Conundrum" If your score is in 14 to 25 range, as I'm sure you already know, your relationship is in peril. Your score indicates that there is very little chance for long-term success. Negative patterns of behavior are destroying your relationship and making you and your partner miserable. If you intend to continue relationship, you must take immediate action Seek outside help if possible. The Internet is a good place to start. Visit a website that specializes in relationship building. Post your questions in a good relationships forum. You will find amazingly helpful people with similar experience and golden advice. Best of luck.

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