For some reason, we fail to apply same logic to our relationships. People start talking about how they’ve lost spark or they’ve got communication issues as reasons to leave. We forget all time and energy invested in getting to this point and all we can think about is running for hills. It’s worth noting at this point that “leaving” happens on many levels and even subtle withdrawals damage our relationships. I know this because I’ve done it myself. In fact, given my own wiring I’m still prone to want to bolt when it gets rough.

This power struggle is a totally predictable piece of relating with your loved one. It’s time when Mr. or Mrs. Perfect suddenly becomes one of your parents or an ex-partner. For some complicated, yet unavoidable reason, this is always going to happen. The best news is that only way out is through.

Sometimes we just need some basic tools and good skills. You can visit my website for suggestions of great books to get you up to speed. http://www.thegreatrelationshipcoach.com/stuff.htm

I guarantee that a relationship filled with romance and passion is more fun than most gadgets. And remember, if you’re going to get expert help make sure you find someone who believes in fixing relationship you are in. There are plenty of cowboys all to ready to sell you a new car.

As adults, we face daily choices: take easy way out and just go along for ride, or do best we can do and be best we can be. I am sure every one of us chooses both options several times a day. Let's be conscious of those decisions today.