It was refusal to face this that ultimately held her back, and kept her going from therapist to therapist and relationship to relationship. Notable progress was made however, when we realized where she could begin, using a specific process to change one thing at a time. One important first step we dealt with self-talk, correcting dialogues she had with herself about events of day, as well how she allowed others to speak reat her.

In my own personal experience, back when I felt fragmented and compartmentalized, I began working diligently on that issue over a decade ago and it is an ongoing process. One morning I was reminding myself of “to do” list I had failed to write down in organizer and appointments I hadn’t written into day planner.

Now one response to that would be to berate myself for not writing it in organizer, as I had engaged in a long-term dysfunctional relationship with procrastination and disorganization.

There was a time when I would have willed myself into a nasty mood because of what I was saying to myself. Without even realizing it I might have colored my day, week or year. I have made some progress with procrastination by determining what were priorities for me.

I took a moment to remind myself of that when mental post-it incident occurred. So my response was to make that my first priority after I got my cup of coffee and sent an email. When I began working on “to do” list, this article practically wrote itself as I allowed myself freedom to journal a bit as I wrote list of items I needed to complete into my sketchbook.

Interestingly, writing this article was at top of list. I decided that this made up for any other inefficiency in my customized system. I trust in this process because it has allowed me to merge my creative and analytical sides harmoniously in a way that contributes to my happiness and sense of self in a way that is gratifying. It is consistent with my goals and so it does come together to work as a system.

I have claimed my power to make it OK if I make a list of books to read, songs or artists to look for, ideas, rough drafts, and even drawings or collages in same place because it served no one to make me wrong for doing it. Sometimes I do have to transfer information into other locations, but at least I am not procrastinating on my ideas and insights (which are seeds of my potential for success) I take immediate action, even as next step to take emerges.

My reason for sharing these anecdotes is to illustrate point of notion mentioned earlier in regards to getting on with business of truly living. It is my intention that I have provided more relevant insight into journey to self as an essential part of achievement. Especially where this is chosen over nursing wounds of past disappointments and failures. What ever happen, it is past and nothing can change it. The important thing is NOW because that where seat of power lies in terms of linear time. It is present that will create your future. So, what are you doing?

Whether or not change is being forcibly placed upon an individual, there are steps that you can take to make career transition easier. . Recognize signs before situation becomes out of control. Stress-related ailments such as neck, back and shoulder pain, headaches, etc. are signs that situation is demanding to be recognized. . Acknowledge that a change is needed. You cannot change what you refuse to accept. . Start taking steps to either improve or leave your current situation. . Take inventory of your skills - not just on-the-job ones. Also, look at your overall talents like organizational and communication skills, detail-orientation, etc. If you're unable to fairly assess your talents, ask friends and family for positive feedback. . If you've reached point of desperation, it may be difficult to fairly assess your current situation but you can look over previous positions and identify your likes and dislikes. . Seek services of a life coach to help you regain balance and focus before, during and after transition process.

The most important thing to remember is that you're not only one having these feelings. Professional help is available if you are willing to take that first step and ask for it.