Reframing Rejection

Written by Peter Murphy

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Asking this question will give you an unlimited range of new aproaches to use: maybe smile more, or bribe him with a soft drink, or perhaps offer to do some of his boring work in return for help.

It also helps to anticipate rejection before it has a chance to happen. Inrepparttar case ofrepparttar 102046 example above, before talking torepparttar 102047 colleague I would spend a few minutes in preparation running through possible ways he might reject me. For each possible situation, just keep asking yourself - how must I change my approach to get what I want?

You may not realize, most people just give up too easily because rejection feels so unpleasant. If you reframe rejection to mean feedback it becomes a mental puzzle to solve instead. You will then be able to endurerepparttar 102048 word *No* a lot longer. This endurance will also encourage others to let you have what you want because you just do not seem to take No for an answer!

****Warning: maintain rapport at all times when you use this approach, this new found courage and tenacity is only appreciated by others if you use it with a win-win outlook.****

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How to handle a Telemarketer

Written by Reagan D. Lynch

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2. If they give you their name, talk to them like they are an old friend. I use this onerepparttar most, and my conversations go something like this:

Telemarketer: Hi, my name is Bob... Me: Bob! You crazy old man, how have you been lately? Telemarketer: Huh? Me: Oh, Bob come on now. You remember me? The quiet kid from Algebra.

This lasts about a minute, with me drivingrepparttar 102045 telemarketer out of his or her mind.

3. Pretend you are someone that you're not. Here's how a call went about a month ago between me and a guy from a major long distance company.

Telemarketer: Hello, I am with Big Phone Company. Me: Wait! Shh, I am not supposed to be answering this phone! Telemarketer: Sir, Me: I said shhhh! You don't seem to understand. I don't even live in this house. Now, I am going to put this phone down so I can steal this stereo...

This I have only used about four times. Ninety-nine-point-nine percent of all telemarketers use autodialers, so they can't exactly pinpoint your phone number. Once I also toldrepparttar 102046 person who called that they had calledrepparttar 102047 President ofrepparttar 102048 United States and were in big trouble, because no one was supposed to have this number. They hung-up in about one second.

4. Just make something up! Use your own imagination. I have one of those sound effects CDs and have used almost every track onrepparttar 102049 CD to throw telemarketers off. I also have a recording ofrepparttar 102050 "Who's On First" skit, which I have used as well. Just play it intorepparttar 102051 phone.

If you have worries about using any of these, don't. Remember--they called you. Technically you should yell and scream at them, but hey, why not have a little fun?

Reagan D. Lynch is a no holds barred, take no bull consumer advocate, internet researcher and e-Book author. Visit his web-site at

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