Put Your Sexy On!

Written by Joi Sigers

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Think about it, withrepparttar ridiculously glaring exceptions of Angelina and Johnny, most of Hollywood's "hottest" are really very average-looking. But they think they'rerepparttar 142987 hottest thing going. Next thing you know,repparttar 142988 media's buying into what they're selling, then we all fall for it. People who wouldn't warrant a second look if you saw them onrepparttar 142989 street top "hottest" lists on a regular basis. It all started in their minds. The mind is an incredibly powerful tool!

Two final words:

Ladies: How sexy would you find a man if he kept talking about his weight, kept messing with his hair or kept looking at his reflection in everything that would produce one? Insecure - Not sexy.

Men: How sexy would you find a woman who kept eyeing every member ofrepparttar 142990 opposite sex and flirtting with everyone betweenrepparttar 142991 ages of 9 and 90? Doesn't make you look cool, just desperate for attention. Desperate - not sexy.

This article can be found at The Mental Fitness Center, along with other motivational articles and information on self improvement, stress, shyness, relaxation, depression, and more.

Controlling Behavior – How Do You Attempt to Control?

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Most people chose a combination ofrepparttar above ways of trying to control. For example, you might be a caretaker inrepparttar 142986 hopes of getting people to love and approve of you, and then you might turn to anger when that doesn’t happen. You might find yourself giving in to what people want to a certain extent, and then retreating or resisting their attempts to control you. You might find yourself being furious at someone’s attempts to control you, but then giving in anyway to avoid his or her upset with you. Or perhaps you are a mellow person until you drink, and then you unleash your rage. Or vice versa – you are nice only when you drink and you are a rageaholicrepparttar 142987 rest ofrepparttar 142988 time. Or, onrepparttar 142989 surface you might be a nice and giving person, allrepparttar 142990 while pulling energetically for others’ love, attention, and approval.

All of these behaviors are intended to protect you from some form of pain –repparttar 142991 pain of rejection, of engulfment, of failure. Most people attempt in numerous ways to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe.

Yet it is these very behaviors that, as adults, are causing most of our pain. Anger feels terrible inrepparttar 142992 body, as does compliance. Being stuck in procrastination or withdrawal also feels awful, as doesrepparttar 142993 emptiness of staying in your head instead of your heart. All these behaviors result in feeling alone inside, because they are all ways to abandon yourself. Controlling behavior is not loving to yourself or to others.

We’ve all heard that you can’t love others until you love yourself, and this is very true. Loving yourself means that your focus is on what is truly in your highest good – what fills your heart with peace and joy and a deep sense of integrity and self worth. Loving yourself means that you are asking throughoutrepparttar 142994 day, “What is in my highest good in this moment?” It is never in your highest good to try to control others or use them to fill your own emptiness. Nor is it in your highest good to harm yourself or others in any way.

Try practicing throughoutrepparttar 142995 day asking this question, “What is in my highest good right now?” Answers will come to you, and then you can takerepparttar 142996 loving action. This one shift in your thinking can change your life!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.

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