Always remember that on every thing that concerns your own life and what works for you,

“you and only YOU are THE EXPERT,

you are fully capable of achieving your goals”

Once you know yourself, you can set better goals, define your visions and desires, take more action towards realization of your goals, make better decisions, and use your natural strengths more fully.

Focus on knowing your future, intended, desired self i.e. You must be very clear and specific regarding what you want to become and/or what you want to have and also why you want it so bad.

Also try to find out what exacly will happen to you once you get what you want, i.e. your emotions, changes in your life, impact on your life etc. 2. HIGH VALUE OF PURPOSE = LOVE YOURSELF Whatever you may have heard to contrary, it is very nice and healthy to have highest opinion of yourself. According to Dr. Jill Ammon-Wexler: there is scientific evidence that "The more you like yourself, more you will accomplish, and smarter and healthier you will be."

To which one of my mentors, great Denis Waitley adds: "Realize that most important opinion about you is one that you hold. Ultimately, nobody else is responsible for your life but you. Nobody else is accountable for your actions but you. Therefore, nobody's opinion about you is more important than yours."

A.M.Sall

2. Carefully examine each one of those experiences and answer following questions, as accurately as possible :

What happened exactly? Why? Where was it? When was it? How did it end? Why do you consider it as a negative experience? What might have been consequences if it had ended otherwise (Envisage as many possible consequences as possible)? Don't you think things might have been worse if it had ended otherwise (Are you sure it wasn't a blessing in disguise, after all)?

3. After asking and answering all those questions, you'll find yourself relieved, as if a terrible weight had been lifted off your shoulders.

Your "negative experience" has now been reduced to its rightful size and rendered innocuous by being examined in Light of Day. It will no longer come to haunt you.

4. From now on, you will do same with even your most recent negative experiences and you'll soon feel that these will happen more and more rarely.

When you sit and examine your life, you'll see more and more success, less and less failure. You will carry out this exercise from time to time, maybe once a week.

5. Now get up and stand upright, Shake dust of negative experiences off your clothes and move forward, fully aware that: You are Maker and Owner of your Destiny.

So, why allow yourself to be ruled by your own creature and property?

Why keep worshipping a God you make with your own hands?

Focus on positive thoughts but also make sure you "neutralize" all negative thoughts!

A.M.Sall - author, coach, success mindset philosopher