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Taking time to refresh your knowledge about pregnancy and birth – Especially if you are going to be part of child birthing process, a brief refresher of what to expect would be helpful. Your daughter will look to you at various points of process for your reassurance. It would be helpful if you are able to use terminology she learned during birthing preparation classes to let her know you are aware of what she is experiencing and can relate with up to date information.
Setting aside at least two to three weeks time – Being available to spend or be on call to help new mom during recuperation and adjustment period is an invaluable gift your daughter will never forget. Sleep schedules, adjusting to feeding, doctor’s appointments, stabilizing meal schedules, addressing unexpected emergencies, doctor’s visits, and helping with general lifestyle changes all make a difference between smooth and traumatic transition. The significance of your presence during this time cannot be measured.
Scheduling “readiness” packing--Do not wait until your daughter is heading to hospital to pack items as you may be asked to stay with mom and dad at hospital overnight. Be sure to include dried fruit, juice, peppermints, and other light refreshments you can use during break times. Our team took turns sleeping and eating during 17 hours my daughter was in labor. We prepared a food kit that included toothbrush, wash cloth, music for her comfort, and fresh fruit. Unfortunately, hospital machines offer carbonated soda and potato chips that are uninviting during early morning hours.
Another preplanning strategy you should consider is talking to new mom and dad about what they may need from you after birth of child. Often new parents don’t consider need for help until issue arises. By initiating this conversation, new parents have option to consider whether there is a need for help for one or two weeks to support a variety of issues including monitoring phone calls and visitors, helping with home chores, washing clothes, and preparing meals. These are a few of their favorite things.
Participating in birth of your first grandbaby will mark a moment in your life that can only be matched by your daughter’s birth. Your role is different this time, but it is pivotal to joy of your daughter’s birthing experience. Congratulations Grandma!!
Theresa V. Wilson, M.Ed. is a Freelance Writer, with over eighty bylines in several business, family and women on and offline publications including Guide to Retirement Living, Godly Business Woman Magazine, The Greater Omaha Parents Journal and a “healthy eating” contribution Lifetime Magazine. She is owner of a home based business dedicated to families and caregivers facing health recovery and crisis related issues. Visit her site at www.meetingtheneeds.org