If there is situation of divorced parents, this can be handled in one of two ways. If parents are on good terms, then they can certainly get along at shower for sake of baby and their son or daughter. However, if conflict exists and inviting them could be recipe for disaster, then having two baby showers would be wise decision.

In addition, if you are host, never assume that a certain person should be invited. On other hand, never assume that someone should be left off invitee list. Remember, this baby shower is for expectant mother and father, no one else. Therefore, final list should always be confirmed with expectant mother or parents.

Once guest list is finalized, you will have a much better idea of amount of food and beverages needed for shower, as well as utensils and tableware. Remember, if you suspect you will be planning a shower in near future, start saving right away and talk to in-laws to see if they would be willing to assist financially. This is not tacky at all and in fact, most of mothers and fathers would be delighted to pitch in.

When you have completed list, remember that this does not mean everyone can attend, even if he or she wants. Therefore, be prepared to handle those who cannot attend graciously.

•Always speak to sibling before making over baby. The sibling will know what is going on while baby has no idea. Therefore, when you enter home or place of baby shower, take just a moment to greet child. Instead of saying, “Do you like your new sister/brother” put focus on them. Something as simple as, “How are you, you look so cute! I bet you are best big sister/brother in world.” You would be amazed at how such a small gesture can make such a big impact. Not only is child getting recognition needed but also, parents appreciate this since they too understand insecurities occurring with sibling. •Bring a small, inexpensive gift for sibling. Although purpose of shower is to celebrate life of newborn baby, a small $2 gift is important. You can take a plain brown lunch bag, draw pictures or paste cartoons or stickers on it, and inside, add a granola bar, a coloring book and crayons, book, toy car, etc. All these items are inexpensive and can make baby shower more enjoyable for sibling.